"All the strength you need
to achieve anything
is within you.”
Sara Henderson
Do you sometimes feel all your strength has left your body and you are just existing? Welcome to the world of the unemployed!
I assure you all your inner strength has not gone away. It is just relaxing until you start moving again.
Today was one of those days for me. I woke up to a very humid and foggy morning. Meeting my neighbor for our daily walk was like knocking down a brick wall. A miracle happened and I was able to meet her.
We walked our usual route even though I was lagging behind. Sorry to say I did not feel better when we finished.
Fighting the feelings for awhile I finally gave up and accepted them. I walked into the house and instead of turning on the computer I sat in a chair and read a book. While reading the book, a miracle happened and my energy slowly returned.
What this lesson taught me, we need time to relax instead of driving ourselves constantly.
Some days are harder than others and being kind to ourselves is the best medicine. It has been proven when we take time away from our concerns and worries, just relaxing for awhile renews our strength and creativity. The key to this mind shift is giving yourself permission to walk away and forget for a few moments what is happening in your life.
Do you remember when you are on vacation, your concerns and worries start to disappear and how relaxed you feel? This is your mini-vacation to renew your energy.
Let’s play a little game and take Time for YOU Today. Be aware of your feelings and what opportunities start to occur.
Please share your experiences with the Circle of Inspiration Community. Together we are not alone and support each other in finding our inner strength.
Helen
Showing posts with label tools for the unemployed. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tools for the unemployed. Show all posts
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Recognizing Your Special Talents While Unemployed
“Use what talents you possess;
the woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those
that sang best.”
Henry Van Dyke
Even though you lost your job, remember you are still the same person. Nothing can take away your special gifts.
Stand-up and take a bow acknowledging the beautiful person you have become and your special gifts!
You might say I don’t have any special gifts. Hold on there, we all have them.
Let’s focus for a minute what comes easy to you. Do you have a beautiful smile, people feel comfortable being with you, great sense of humor, or are you a math wiz, etc.?
Feeling better?
Let’s do a little experiment today. During the day write down what makes you a beautiful person. No need to share the list.
For some of us who had trouble thinking what people like about me. Try this simple exercise:
• Think about a close friend and what you like about that them.
• Write these traits down.
• Ask yourself this question “Do I also have some of these qualities?”
• Now list your special gifts.
Once you have created a list review it in the morning and evening. Pick one special gift you possess and practice it three times that day. As the days go, add another special gift each day and in time you will be practicing all your gifts each day.
Remember what Henry Van Dyke said, “Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
Go play full-out and enjoy the beautiful person you have become!
Please share your feelings after reading this article. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to be your support system. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
the woods would be very silent
if no birds sang except those
that sang best.”
Henry Van Dyke
Even though you lost your job, remember you are still the same person. Nothing can take away your special gifts.
Stand-up and take a bow acknowledging the beautiful person you have become and your special gifts!
You might say I don’t have any special gifts. Hold on there, we all have them.
Let’s focus for a minute what comes easy to you. Do you have a beautiful smile, people feel comfortable being with you, great sense of humor, or are you a math wiz, etc.?
Feeling better?
Let’s do a little experiment today. During the day write down what makes you a beautiful person. No need to share the list.
For some of us who had trouble thinking what people like about me. Try this simple exercise:
• Think about a close friend and what you like about that them.
• Write these traits down.
• Ask yourself this question “Do I also have some of these qualities?”
• Now list your special gifts.
Once you have created a list review it in the morning and evening. Pick one special gift you possess and practice it three times that day. As the days go, add another special gift each day and in time you will be practicing all your gifts each day.
Remember what Henry Van Dyke said, “Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.”
Go play full-out and enjoy the beautiful person you have become!
Please share your feelings after reading this article. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to be your support system. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Positive Changes While on the Unemployed Journey
“Every small positive change
we make in ourselves
repays us in confidence
in the future.”
Alice Walker
Reading this quote you might think to yourself, “Why do I constantly have to make small positive changes while on the unemployed journey instead of just coast through life.”
If anyone comes up with the answer please let us all know and we will jump on board.
We are constantly making changes in our life as opportunities appear. Two years ago, did you think you would be unemployed and looking for a new job? I know this opportunity was not a welcomed gift.
Let’s turn things around and brainstorm for a few minutes what positive outcomes have been created.
• No longer in a job that was not fulfilling. Working in a particular job for years sometimes your creative juices stop flowing and things become mundane.
• Future opportunity to learn new skills. A new position will include different skills which will ensure you are learning and creative again.
• Builds relationships. During the unemployment journey you learned who is supportive, met new friends and associates.
• Provided a foundation for growth. You are becoming a strong person who is making decisions and trying new techniques during this difficult period. Someday you will look back and wonder how you have made it through this time in your life.
We could go on and on listing the positive outcomes we will experience or have experienced. The most important thing to remember is that you are creating positive changes in your life which will repay you with self-confidence.
Now it is your turn to share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what positive changes you made that impacted your life.
Until Tomorrow
Helen
we make in ourselves
repays us in confidence
in the future.”
Alice Walker
Reading this quote you might think to yourself, “Why do I constantly have to make small positive changes while on the unemployed journey instead of just coast through life.”
If anyone comes up with the answer please let us all know and we will jump on board.
We are constantly making changes in our life as opportunities appear. Two years ago, did you think you would be unemployed and looking for a new job? I know this opportunity was not a welcomed gift.
Let’s turn things around and brainstorm for a few minutes what positive outcomes have been created.
• No longer in a job that was not fulfilling. Working in a particular job for years sometimes your creative juices stop flowing and things become mundane.
• Future opportunity to learn new skills. A new position will include different skills which will ensure you are learning and creative again.
• Builds relationships. During the unemployment journey you learned who is supportive, met new friends and associates.
• Provided a foundation for growth. You are becoming a strong person who is making decisions and trying new techniques during this difficult period. Someday you will look back and wonder how you have made it through this time in your life.
We could go on and on listing the positive outcomes we will experience or have experienced. The most important thing to remember is that you are creating positive changes in your life which will repay you with self-confidence.
Now it is your turn to share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what positive changes you made that impacted your life.
Until Tomorrow
Helen
Saturday, July 25, 2009
The Unemployed Appreciating Their Many Talents
“Appreciation is like an insurance policy.
It has to be renewed every now and then.”
Dave McIntyre
When acknowledged it is hard to enjoy the compliments and we usually brush them off with a quick thank you. On the other hand, if criticized in anyway the thoughts run through are heads constantly. Why do we always focus on the criticism instead of the compliment?
That is a good question! The reason being we feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and sometimes think now I have to be that shinning star all the time. That would be hard work.
Patrice was one of 50 people laid-off from the bank she was working for. In her mind she was the only one who lost her job. She felt like a failure and was ashamed to talk to anyone about what was happening. Her sister insisted that she contact me.
Our first couple of sessions, I was her sounding board and listened to the story over and over again. She was not open to making any changes. Until one day I asked her to name the special talents she had while working?
Patrice’s voice changed and she started rattling off more than 20 talents within a matter of seconds. When she took a deep breath, I asked if she still had these talents. Her immediate reply was, “YES.”
This started a new path for Patrice. Her exercise for the next week was to write down her special traits everyday. Then she had to say them out loud while looking in the mirror.
Within a matter of weeks her attitude changed, she started revising her resume and looking for jobs on-line. Using this technique was renewing her insurance policy for believing in herself.
Patrice was giving herself a beautiful gift. With this new attitude, one day while food shopping Patrice ran into a neighbor. After catching-up for awhile she found out about a new company that was looking for IT Managers. She researched the company, contacted them, had an interview and within a few months Patrice was working again.
Please renew your Belief In Yourself Insurance Policy by sharing with us your special talents. Working together as a community we will support ourselves and each other while trudging down the Unemployment Journey.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Remember you have a choice either to dwell on your unhappiness or your special talents.
Helen
It has to be renewed every now and then.”
Dave McIntyre
When acknowledged it is hard to enjoy the compliments and we usually brush them off with a quick thank you. On the other hand, if criticized in anyway the thoughts run through are heads constantly. Why do we always focus on the criticism instead of the compliment?
That is a good question! The reason being we feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and sometimes think now I have to be that shinning star all the time. That would be hard work.
Patrice was one of 50 people laid-off from the bank she was working for. In her mind she was the only one who lost her job. She felt like a failure and was ashamed to talk to anyone about what was happening. Her sister insisted that she contact me.
Our first couple of sessions, I was her sounding board and listened to the story over and over again. She was not open to making any changes. Until one day I asked her to name the special talents she had while working?
Patrice’s voice changed and she started rattling off more than 20 talents within a matter of seconds. When she took a deep breath, I asked if she still had these talents. Her immediate reply was, “YES.”
This started a new path for Patrice. Her exercise for the next week was to write down her special traits everyday. Then she had to say them out loud while looking in the mirror.
Within a matter of weeks her attitude changed, she started revising her resume and looking for jobs on-line. Using this technique was renewing her insurance policy for believing in herself.
Patrice was giving herself a beautiful gift. With this new attitude, one day while food shopping Patrice ran into a neighbor. After catching-up for awhile she found out about a new company that was looking for IT Managers. She researched the company, contacted them, had an interview and within a few months Patrice was working again.
Please renew your Belief In Yourself Insurance Policy by sharing with us your special talents. Working together as a community we will support ourselves and each other while trudging down the Unemployment Journey.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Remember you have a choice either to dwell on your unhappiness or your special talents.
Helen
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Unemployed Journey
“Far away there in the sunshine
are my highest aspirations
I may not reach them
but I can look up and see their beauty,
believe in them and try
to follow them."
Lousia May Alcott
Lousia May Alcott’s quote enables us to have dreams, beliefs and the luxury of not having to accomplish goals overnight. What a great concept!!
As human beings most of us want things instantaneously and do not have the patience to wait over a period of time. I always think, if I knew the outcome beforehand it would be easier to wait for the end result. No such luck, life is a mystery.
Living in the unemployed journey you may feel: unsettled, frustrated, optimistic, happy or just numb. We go thru all these feelings during the day. One moment you feel good and suddenly your next thought comes crashing your hopes and dreams.
Welcome to the human race!!
Cheer up! There are some very simple steps below you can take to brighten your outlook.
• Close your eyes and tell yourself, “I am safe and in the process of finding a new job.”
• Start laughing. It maybe hard at first and as you continue laughing it will get easier.
• Take a 10 Minute Mini-Vacation by doing something nice for yourself.
Examples: Have a cup of coffee or tea, read a fun novel, take a walk, etc.
Sometimes you feel totally alone on this journey and the truth is there are many people in the same situation. Working with others not only helps you feel part of a team it also enables you to share information and support each other during this time of uncertainly.
My goal is to help you and others find that perfect job, make money and be happy again.
Please join the Love Yourself – It Matters Community by leaving your stories, hopes, dreams in the comment section. Together we will design viable options for finding employment in this time of uncertainly.
If you are not traveling on the unemployed path please tell others you know who are experiencing the journey about this blog.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
are my highest aspirations
I may not reach them
but I can look up and see their beauty,
believe in them and try
to follow them."
Lousia May Alcott
Lousia May Alcott’s quote enables us to have dreams, beliefs and the luxury of not having to accomplish goals overnight. What a great concept!!
As human beings most of us want things instantaneously and do not have the patience to wait over a period of time. I always think, if I knew the outcome beforehand it would be easier to wait for the end result. No such luck, life is a mystery.
Living in the unemployed journey you may feel: unsettled, frustrated, optimistic, happy or just numb. We go thru all these feelings during the day. One moment you feel good and suddenly your next thought comes crashing your hopes and dreams.
Welcome to the human race!!
Cheer up! There are some very simple steps below you can take to brighten your outlook.
• Close your eyes and tell yourself, “I am safe and in the process of finding a new job.”
• Start laughing. It maybe hard at first and as you continue laughing it will get easier.
• Take a 10 Minute Mini-Vacation by doing something nice for yourself.
Examples: Have a cup of coffee or tea, read a fun novel, take a walk, etc.
Sometimes you feel totally alone on this journey and the truth is there are many people in the same situation. Working with others not only helps you feel part of a team it also enables you to share information and support each other during this time of uncertainly.
My goal is to help you and others find that perfect job, make money and be happy again.
Please join the Love Yourself – It Matters Community by leaving your stories, hopes, dreams in the comment section. Together we will design viable options for finding employment in this time of uncertainly.
If you are not traveling on the unemployed path please tell others you know who are experiencing the journey about this blog.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Friday, July 17, 2009
Walking a Labyrinth for the Unemployed
Life is a Labyrinth
Labyrinths have existed in virtually every period in history and most cultural communities for 3500 years. A labyrinth is an ancient symbol of wholeness. Also, a sacred tool viewed as a metaphor for life's journey.
The ancient and powerful tool is unicursal, offering only one route to the center and back out again. Walking the labyrinth you meander through each of the four quadrants several times before reaching your goal. The labyrinth offers you lessons as you walk the path and can assist you in addressing challenges, meditate, pray and find peace and serenity.
While visiting the New Age Health Spa in Neversink, New York, I walked along the Labyrinth different paths.
When I first arrived at the Labyrinth it looked like the skies would open up and pour with rain. Not letting the rain stop me, I started walking and thinking about what was happening in my life. As I kept walking it seemed the middle was so far away even though it was in sight.
After awhile the only thing I was focusing on was getting to the middle before it started raining. Kept walking, at one point I tripped and got back up. All of a sudden it hit me, walking along the different paths, is like our life's journey. We keep reaching for goals, sometimes falling backwards and always keep going even though they seemed so far away.
Eventually, I reached the middle, stayed a few seconds and turned to leave. It was like I reached my goal and what was next. The walk back was quick and the rain held off until I got back to the cafeteria.
Working with unemployed clients I realized they are walking a Labyrinth. Some prospects lead to interviews, new jobs and others to dead ends. My clients sometimes fall, get back up and keep walking along the different paths until they reach their goal.
Today is a new day and the beginning of your walk on the labyrinth. Take that first step with a new belief that the different paths will eventually lead to your goal of finding a job.
Keep creating and thinking about new possibilities that are on the horizon.
Good Luck!
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is working together to support each other in this challenging time. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself - IT MATTERS! Blog
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on this blog.
Labyrinths have existed in virtually every period in history and most cultural communities for 3500 years. A labyrinth is an ancient symbol of wholeness. Also, a sacred tool viewed as a metaphor for life's journey.
The ancient and powerful tool is unicursal, offering only one route to the center and back out again. Walking the labyrinth you meander through each of the four quadrants several times before reaching your goal. The labyrinth offers you lessons as you walk the path and can assist you in addressing challenges, meditate, pray and find peace and serenity.
While visiting the New Age Health Spa in Neversink, New York, I walked along the Labyrinth different paths.
When I first arrived at the Labyrinth it looked like the skies would open up and pour with rain. Not letting the rain stop me, I started walking and thinking about what was happening in my life. As I kept walking it seemed the middle was so far away even though it was in sight.
After awhile the only thing I was focusing on was getting to the middle before it started raining. Kept walking, at one point I tripped and got back up. All of a sudden it hit me, walking along the different paths, is like our life's journey. We keep reaching for goals, sometimes falling backwards and always keep going even though they seemed so far away.
Eventually, I reached the middle, stayed a few seconds and turned to leave. It was like I reached my goal and what was next. The walk back was quick and the rain held off until I got back to the cafeteria.
Working with unemployed clients I realized they are walking a Labyrinth. Some prospects lead to interviews, new jobs and others to dead ends. My clients sometimes fall, get back up and keep walking along the different paths until they reach their goal.
Today is a new day and the beginning of your walk on the labyrinth. Take that first step with a new belief that the different paths will eventually lead to your goal of finding a job.
Keep creating and thinking about new possibilities that are on the horizon.
Good Luck!
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is working together to support each other in this challenging time. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself - IT MATTERS! Blog
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on this blog.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Peaceful Plan for the Unemployed
Hey, today is a new day and the sun is shinning. Are you wondering, “So what, I don’t have a job and could care less about the sun shinning.”
Welcome to the world of the unemployed.
When we feel scared and have no idea of what is going to happen our thoughts take over and rule our unhappy lives. The good part is we are in control of taking care of ourselves.
You can give yourself a gift today and create a plan that will create peace in your life. No need to panic we can make the plan simple and easy to follow.
Following are questions that can help you create your special plan:
1. What made you happy yesterday?
2. Who can you call and have a good laugh with?
3. Where can you go to relax?
4. When is the most difficult time of your day?
5. How can you help a family member?
After answering the above questions you are ready to create your plan. Below is an example of a Peaceful Plan created from answering the above questions.
Peaceful Plan
Morning is my most difficult time of day so I will get dressed, go out for a cup of coffee and smile at another person in the coffee shop.
When feeling very stressed, call Sherri and have a good laugh.
Prepare dinner for my family before my husband gets home.
I love sitting on my back porch, having a cup of tea after dinner with my husband and just relaxing. It is very important that you both have an unwritten rule not to discuss anything stressful.
What steps does your Peaceful Plan include? Please let the Love Yourself – It Matters know about your plan and what benefits it is providing. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Remember when one door closes, it is hell waiting in the hallway so open a shade and look for the opportunities.
Helen
Welcome to the world of the unemployed.
When we feel scared and have no idea of what is going to happen our thoughts take over and rule our unhappy lives. The good part is we are in control of taking care of ourselves.
You can give yourself a gift today and create a plan that will create peace in your life. No need to panic we can make the plan simple and easy to follow.
Following are questions that can help you create your special plan:
1. What made you happy yesterday?
2. Who can you call and have a good laugh with?
3. Where can you go to relax?
4. When is the most difficult time of your day?
5. How can you help a family member?
After answering the above questions you are ready to create your plan. Below is an example of a Peaceful Plan created from answering the above questions.
Peaceful Plan
Morning is my most difficult time of day so I will get dressed, go out for a cup of coffee and smile at another person in the coffee shop.
When feeling very stressed, call Sherri and have a good laugh.
Prepare dinner for my family before my husband gets home.
I love sitting on my back porch, having a cup of tea after dinner with my husband and just relaxing. It is very important that you both have an unwritten rule not to discuss anything stressful.
What steps does your Peaceful Plan include? Please let the Love Yourself – It Matters know about your plan and what benefits it is providing. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Remember when one door closes, it is hell waiting in the hallway so open a shade and look for the opportunities.
Helen
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Unemployed Professionals Instructions for Your Day
“One of the things I learned the hard way was
that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged.
Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life
can restore your faith in yourself.”
Lucille Ball
Waking up this morning it hits like a lead balloon, I no longer have a job. What am I going to do?
Not minimizing the situation you have a choice either to enjoy your day or go deeper into that black hole. You might ask yourself, “Come on Helen I have no choice.” My mind keeps thinking: I am not working…not making money…feel like a failure…really scared, etc., etc. These thoughts are natural and with a little practice you can change them.
Instructions for changing your thinking:
• Thought, “I will never find a new job.”
• Stop and say to yourself out loud, “Thanks for helping me!”
• Wait a second and say, “There is a chance I could find a new job.”
• Close your eyes and visualize yourself receiving a call with a job offer.
Changing the thought to a happy outcome gives you hope. When we feel hopeful things are not discouraging. The sun shines and we can see new possibilities.
With this new perspective you have a better chance of enjoying your day and discovering ways to find that perfect new job.
Put a smile on your face and say out loud, “Watch out world here I come.”
Enjoy your day!!!
Helen
Please let us know how you are doing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to support you in anyway we can.
There are Circles of Inspiration forming to support you in setting clear goals and taking quick action steps in finding well paying, inspiring work again. Check out the Love Yourself Website www.loveyourselfcoaching.com to find out about the Circles of Inspiration.
that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged.
Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life
can restore your faith in yourself.”
Lucille Ball
Waking up this morning it hits like a lead balloon, I no longer have a job. What am I going to do?
Not minimizing the situation you have a choice either to enjoy your day or go deeper into that black hole. You might ask yourself, “Come on Helen I have no choice.” My mind keeps thinking: I am not working…not making money…feel like a failure…really scared, etc., etc. These thoughts are natural and with a little practice you can change them.
Instructions for changing your thinking:
• Thought, “I will never find a new job.”
• Stop and say to yourself out loud, “Thanks for helping me!”
• Wait a second and say, “There is a chance I could find a new job.”
• Close your eyes and visualize yourself receiving a call with a job offer.
Changing the thought to a happy outcome gives you hope. When we feel hopeful things are not discouraging. The sun shines and we can see new possibilities.
With this new perspective you have a better chance of enjoying your day and discovering ways to find that perfect new job.
Put a smile on your face and say out loud, “Watch out world here I come.”
Enjoy your day!!!
Helen
Please let us know how you are doing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to support you in anyway we can.
There are Circles of Inspiration forming to support you in setting clear goals and taking quick action steps in finding well paying, inspiring work again. Check out the Love Yourself Website www.loveyourselfcoaching.com to find out about the Circles of Inspiration.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Actions for the Unemployed
“Sometimes things which at the moment may be
perceived as obstacles – and actually be obstacles,
difficulties, or drawbacks – can in the long run result
in some good end which would have occurred
if it had not been for the obstacle."
Steve Allen
Reading this quote you might think to yourself how losing my job can be a good thing? I cannot find another job, working hard to keep my spirits up, and the worst part having no place to go.
What is a person do?
Yes, you might feel sorry for yourself and it is your right as a human being to have these feelings. You had a traumatic experience and need time to recover. This is a difficult time for you and everyone meaning well gives you advice which they feel you should follow right away.
As they say time heals all and with taking steps to adjust to your new life you will create a new normal. Prior to losing your job your normal was to spend at least 8 hours a day at work. Now you spend those same 8 hours worrying about your new lifestyle.
I have been working with Mary, a client who just 10 months ago had a job and was worrying about not being able to lose weight. Two months later she learned that the division she was working for had plans to layoff 70 people. Not feeling threatened she went to work every day and as time went on learned she was one of the 70 being targeted.
Her first response, how could this happen to me, I am a great worker and received excellent reviews. They probably made a mistake, will call me back into the office to let me know how sorry they were for making a mistake and they want me to stay. This scenario never happened.
We continued working together and changed our focus. The first object was for Mary to adjust to her new normal. Create a plan that would make her feel safe again and research ways to start the job search.
During this period, Mary implemented the following steps:
• Every morning upon rising she would follow her normal routine of getting dressed and making sure the children were at the bus stop on time. This sense of routine gave Mary and her children a sense of comfort that nothing was wrong.
• Followed her exercise program. Exercising gave her strength to go on and a feeling she was taking care of herself.
• Researched different job opportunities. This action gave Mary the feeling she was doing something in finding a new job.
• Attended networking events for jobseekers. Meeting other people in the same situation gave Mary the feeling she was not alone. They supported each other with resume writing, interview role playing and keeping each other optimistic.
• Preparing dinner for the family every evening and spending time with her children and husband. Created a feeling for everyone that life was continuing and they did not have to worry about what was going to happen.
Taking these initial steps on a daily basis gave Mary the courage and strength to continue her job search. She continually stepped out of her comfort zone, learned new things about herself and within time Mary was offered two different jobs which would be considered a promotion from her previous job.
So as Steve Allen quote states, sometime obstacles can in the long run result in a opportunity which would never have occurred if you did not experience the lose.
If you are among the unemployed and need support please let us know by leaving a response in the comment box. Remember the Love Yourself – It Matters Community is to here to empower you during your journey.
Many unemployed people are reading this blog and by sharing tools you have found can help others. Together we can make this journey a little easier and within time everyone will be working.
If you know of anyone who is traveling the unemployed journey please tell them about the Love Yourself - It Matters Blog. Together let's help make their life a little easier.
Helen
Helen
perceived as obstacles – and actually be obstacles,
difficulties, or drawbacks – can in the long run result
in some good end which would have occurred
if it had not been for the obstacle."
Steve Allen
Reading this quote you might think to yourself how losing my job can be a good thing? I cannot find another job, working hard to keep my spirits up, and the worst part having no place to go.
What is a person do?
Yes, you might feel sorry for yourself and it is your right as a human being to have these feelings. You had a traumatic experience and need time to recover. This is a difficult time for you and everyone meaning well gives you advice which they feel you should follow right away.
As they say time heals all and with taking steps to adjust to your new life you will create a new normal. Prior to losing your job your normal was to spend at least 8 hours a day at work. Now you spend those same 8 hours worrying about your new lifestyle.
I have been working with Mary, a client who just 10 months ago had a job and was worrying about not being able to lose weight. Two months later she learned that the division she was working for had plans to layoff 70 people. Not feeling threatened she went to work every day and as time went on learned she was one of the 70 being targeted.
Her first response, how could this happen to me, I am a great worker and received excellent reviews. They probably made a mistake, will call me back into the office to let me know how sorry they were for making a mistake and they want me to stay. This scenario never happened.
We continued working together and changed our focus. The first object was for Mary to adjust to her new normal. Create a plan that would make her feel safe again and research ways to start the job search.
During this period, Mary implemented the following steps:
• Every morning upon rising she would follow her normal routine of getting dressed and making sure the children were at the bus stop on time. This sense of routine gave Mary and her children a sense of comfort that nothing was wrong.
• Followed her exercise program. Exercising gave her strength to go on and a feeling she was taking care of herself.
• Researched different job opportunities. This action gave Mary the feeling she was doing something in finding a new job.
• Attended networking events for jobseekers. Meeting other people in the same situation gave Mary the feeling she was not alone. They supported each other with resume writing, interview role playing and keeping each other optimistic.
• Preparing dinner for the family every evening and spending time with her children and husband. Created a feeling for everyone that life was continuing and they did not have to worry about what was going to happen.
Taking these initial steps on a daily basis gave Mary the courage and strength to continue her job search. She continually stepped out of her comfort zone, learned new things about herself and within time Mary was offered two different jobs which would be considered a promotion from her previous job.
So as Steve Allen quote states, sometime obstacles can in the long run result in a opportunity which would never have occurred if you did not experience the lose.
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