“…be the change
you wish
to see in
the world..”
-gandhi
I was thinking before writing on my blog today, “Holidays can be a very painful time.” Having expectations the holidays will be fun, relaxing and receive the love and support we crave from others.
Hello, guess again. What reality usually dictates is that we are busy shopping, running around to beat the clock and annoyed with people in general.
What happened to our holiday expectations? Down the drain!
We don’t realize that not having our expectations become reality we subconsciously become angry and instead of enjoying the holidays they become a burden.
As Gandhi says,” Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Take a step back and rearrange your thinking and schedule.
Let me tell you a little story.
I was out shopping for gifts the other night and everything I picked up was just not right for the person I was thinking about. After walking around the mall for over an hour I decided to stop for a cup of coffee and go home.
Listening to the people on line behind me complaining about the holidays made me realize I was doing the same thing.
I started to think of what could I do differently?
I found a bench and just rested for awhile drinking my coffee. The idea popped into my head to ask my grandchildren for a wish list. Then I could have some direction and buy what they really wanted.
I went home, called each grandchild and asked them to give me a wish list of only 3 things. The older ones wanted to spend a day in NYC with me or just go out for dinner. The others gave me their choices. It made my life so much easier and I had a happy memory speaking with each and everyone of them about the holiday season.
What can you do to make this season a little easier, create memories and enjoy yourself?
Please share your ideas with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. I look forward to reading your comments.
Helen
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Thursday, December 3, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Walking a Labyrinth for the Unemployed
Life is a Labyrinth
Labyrinths have existed in virtually every period in history and most cultural communities for 3500 years. A labyrinth is an ancient symbol of wholeness. Also, a sacred tool viewed as a metaphor for life's journey.
The ancient and powerful tool is unicursal, offering only one route to the center and back out again. Walking the labyrinth you meander through each of the four quadrants several times before reaching your goal. The labyrinth offers you lessons as you walk the path and can assist you in addressing challenges, meditate, pray and find peace and serenity.
While visiting the New Age Health Spa in Neversink, New York, I walked along the Labyrinth different paths.
When I first arrived at the Labyrinth it looked like the skies would open up and pour with rain. Not letting the rain stop me, I started walking and thinking about what was happening in my life. As I kept walking it seemed the middle was so far away even though it was in sight.
After awhile the only thing I was focusing on was getting to the middle before it started raining. Kept walking, at one point I tripped and got back up. All of a sudden it hit me, walking along the different paths, is like our life's journey. We keep reaching for goals, sometimes falling backwards and always keep going even though they seemed so far away.
Eventually, I reached the middle, stayed a few seconds and turned to leave. It was like I reached my goal and what was next. The walk back was quick and the rain held off until I got back to the cafeteria.
Working with unemployed clients I realized they are walking a Labyrinth. Some prospects lead to interviews, new jobs and others to dead ends. My clients sometimes fall, get back up and keep walking along the different paths until they reach their goal.
Today is a new day and the beginning of your walk on the labyrinth. Take that first step with a new belief that the different paths will eventually lead to your goal of finding a job.
Keep creating and thinking about new possibilities that are on the horizon.
Good Luck!
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is working together to support each other in this challenging time. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself - IT MATTERS! Blog
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on this blog.
Labyrinths have existed in virtually every period in history and most cultural communities for 3500 years. A labyrinth is an ancient symbol of wholeness. Also, a sacred tool viewed as a metaphor for life's journey.
The ancient and powerful tool is unicursal, offering only one route to the center and back out again. Walking the labyrinth you meander through each of the four quadrants several times before reaching your goal. The labyrinth offers you lessons as you walk the path and can assist you in addressing challenges, meditate, pray and find peace and serenity.
While visiting the New Age Health Spa in Neversink, New York, I walked along the Labyrinth different paths.
When I first arrived at the Labyrinth it looked like the skies would open up and pour with rain. Not letting the rain stop me, I started walking and thinking about what was happening in my life. As I kept walking it seemed the middle was so far away even though it was in sight.
After awhile the only thing I was focusing on was getting to the middle before it started raining. Kept walking, at one point I tripped and got back up. All of a sudden it hit me, walking along the different paths, is like our life's journey. We keep reaching for goals, sometimes falling backwards and always keep going even though they seemed so far away.
Eventually, I reached the middle, stayed a few seconds and turned to leave. It was like I reached my goal and what was next. The walk back was quick and the rain held off until I got back to the cafeteria.
Working with unemployed clients I realized they are walking a Labyrinth. Some prospects lead to interviews, new jobs and others to dead ends. My clients sometimes fall, get back up and keep walking along the different paths until they reach their goal.
Today is a new day and the beginning of your walk on the labyrinth. Take that first step with a new belief that the different paths will eventually lead to your goal of finding a job.
Keep creating and thinking about new possibilities that are on the horizon.
Good Luck!
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is working together to support each other in this challenging time. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself - IT MATTERS! Blog
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on this blog.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Unemployed Professionals Instructions for Your Day
“One of the things I learned the hard way was
that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged.
Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life
can restore your faith in yourself.”
Lucille Ball
Waking up this morning it hits like a lead balloon, I no longer have a job. What am I going to do?
Not minimizing the situation you have a choice either to enjoy your day or go deeper into that black hole. You might ask yourself, “Come on Helen I have no choice.” My mind keeps thinking: I am not working…not making money…feel like a failure…really scared, etc., etc. These thoughts are natural and with a little practice you can change them.
Instructions for changing your thinking:
• Thought, “I will never find a new job.”
• Stop and say to yourself out loud, “Thanks for helping me!”
• Wait a second and say, “There is a chance I could find a new job.”
• Close your eyes and visualize yourself receiving a call with a job offer.
Changing the thought to a happy outcome gives you hope. When we feel hopeful things are not discouraging. The sun shines and we can see new possibilities.
With this new perspective you have a better chance of enjoying your day and discovering ways to find that perfect new job.
Put a smile on your face and say out loud, “Watch out world here I come.”
Enjoy your day!!!
Helen
Please let us know how you are doing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to support you in anyway we can.
There are Circles of Inspiration forming to support you in setting clear goals and taking quick action steps in finding well paying, inspiring work again. Check out the Love Yourself Website www.loveyourselfcoaching.com to find out about the Circles of Inspiration.
that it doesn’t pay to get discouraged.
Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life
can restore your faith in yourself.”
Lucille Ball
Waking up this morning it hits like a lead balloon, I no longer have a job. What am I going to do?
Not minimizing the situation you have a choice either to enjoy your day or go deeper into that black hole. You might ask yourself, “Come on Helen I have no choice.” My mind keeps thinking: I am not working…not making money…feel like a failure…really scared, etc., etc. These thoughts are natural and with a little practice you can change them.
Instructions for changing your thinking:
• Thought, “I will never find a new job.”
• Stop and say to yourself out loud, “Thanks for helping me!”
• Wait a second and say, “There is a chance I could find a new job.”
• Close your eyes and visualize yourself receiving a call with a job offer.
Changing the thought to a happy outcome gives you hope. When we feel hopeful things are not discouraging. The sun shines and we can see new possibilities.
With this new perspective you have a better chance of enjoying your day and discovering ways to find that perfect new job.
Put a smile on your face and say out loud, “Watch out world here I come.”
Enjoy your day!!!
Helen
Please let us know how you are doing. The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is here to support you in anyway we can.
There are Circles of Inspiration forming to support you in setting clear goals and taking quick action steps in finding well paying, inspiring work again. Check out the Love Yourself Website www.loveyourselfcoaching.com to find out about the Circles of Inspiration.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Tips for the Unemployed
“To be upset over what you don’t have is to waste what you do have.”
Ken Keyes, Jr.
As human beings, we are wired to automatically focus on what we don’t have, instead of thinking about all the gifts we are constantly receiving.
What is a person to do?
In my group coaching circles, I have been working with women who have joined the roles of the unemployed. At first they are relieved the horror of not knowing is over. Then comes the trauma of being displaced, feelings of failure and anxiety of never being able to find another job.
It is understandable they feel this way. Women, for most of their adult lives rise in the morning, get dressed and leave for work. Come 9:00am and they have no place to go.
It has been suggested to rise at your regular time, get dressed and start researching job options. Who are they kidding?
I have been working with my clients to create a plan they feel comfortable implementing. By having a goal and taking small steps, builds their comfort level and sense of fulfillment.
Each person has their own needs and agenda. What will work for one person will not necessarily work for someone else.
However, here are 7 basic steps that can work for all of us:
1. Eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner
2. Wear clothes that make you feel good
3. Practice good hygiene
4. Exercise daily, even if you just take a walk around the block
5. Only focus on two or three steps a day. Otherwise your steps will become overwhelming and in all probability you will not accomplish anything
6.Join a support group
7.Take a daily mini-vacation – take 10 minutes a day to do something just for you. Examples: Just sit in a chair and relax; take a walk; read a book.
Be aware of the new opportunities that are presenting themselves to you daily.
I once heard a great quote: “When one door closes, it is hell waiting in the hallway, so pull up the shade and look out the window.”
Good Luck!
Learn how you can get support while being unemployed. The previous article is a flyer for the Circle of Inspiration for the Unemployed. Come join us or pass the flyer on to anyone you know that is unemployed and looking for support.
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is forming a support blog for the unemployed in their time of need. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog.
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on the Love Yourself- It Matters Blog.
Ken Keyes, Jr.
As human beings, we are wired to automatically focus on what we don’t have, instead of thinking about all the gifts we are constantly receiving.
What is a person to do?
In my group coaching circles, I have been working with women who have joined the roles of the unemployed. At first they are relieved the horror of not knowing is over. Then comes the trauma of being displaced, feelings of failure and anxiety of never being able to find another job.
It is understandable they feel this way. Women, for most of their adult lives rise in the morning, get dressed and leave for work. Come 9:00am and they have no place to go.
It has been suggested to rise at your regular time, get dressed and start researching job options. Who are they kidding?
I have been working with my clients to create a plan they feel comfortable implementing. By having a goal and taking small steps, builds their comfort level and sense of fulfillment.
Each person has their own needs and agenda. What will work for one person will not necessarily work for someone else.
However, here are 7 basic steps that can work for all of us:
1. Eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner
2. Wear clothes that make you feel good
3. Practice good hygiene
4. Exercise daily, even if you just take a walk around the block
5. Only focus on two or three steps a day. Otherwise your steps will become overwhelming and in all probability you will not accomplish anything
6.Join a support group
7.Take a daily mini-vacation – take 10 minutes a day to do something just for you. Examples: Just sit in a chair and relax; take a walk; read a book.
Be aware of the new opportunities that are presenting themselves to you daily.
I once heard a great quote: “When one door closes, it is hell waiting in the hallway, so pull up the shade and look out the window.”
Good Luck!
Learn how you can get support while being unemployed. The previous article is a flyer for the Circle of Inspiration for the Unemployed. Come join us or pass the flyer on to anyone you know that is unemployed and looking for support.
The Love Yourself – It Matters Community is forming a support blog for the unemployed in their time of need. If you know of anyone who is on this journey please tell them about the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog.
Please join me in writing your tips on how to motive yourself, make life easier and able to smile at the end of the day. I am looking forward to reading your tips on the Love Yourself- It Matters Blog.
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