"Expect to have hope rekindled.
Expect your prayers to be answered in
wondrous ways.
The dry seasons in life do not last.
The spring rains will come again.”
Sarah Ban Breathnach
Tomorrow in the United States we will be celebrating Thanksgiving. It is a day for family, friends, lots and lots of food and a time to be grateful.
I am sure you are thinking, “Get real Helen, what do I have to be grateful for I am unemployed and will probably never find a job again.”
I am not going to debate you, it is a very hard time in your life right now. The one thing you do have is hope. It is up to you to believe things will be different.
As Sarah Ban Breathnach quotes, “The dry seasons in life do not last. The spring rains will come again.”
So pick yourself up and let’s turn your thinking around. It is just as easy to focus on what really happened instead of blaming yourself.
You might ask how can I change my thinking in an instant? Take the following small steps:
• Negative thought pops up, “I cannot face my family tomorrow.” Say out loud what really happened. Example: It was not my fault the company closed.”
• Take a few sheets of paper and keep writing what really happened until you start believing it.
We sometimes become drama queens and kings and find ourselves falling down a deep hole. It is our responsibility to change things around as quickly as possible.
One thing that scares others is to see us stay in that dark hole. When we are positive it gives us strength and others hope that things will change.
Go out there and be either Superman or Superwoman and make your life and others brighter.
If you are going to a Thanksgiving Dinner with family and friends remember you are the same person you have always been.
One trick I have learned from a client is when someone asks you about your job situation, always smile and say, "Thanks for asking I have a lot of possibilities,” and then ask them a question about themselves.
People love to talk about themselves.
Enjoy your life and expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways.
Wishing everyone a Thanksgiving Day that is sprinkled with happiness, love and abundance!
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what you are grateful for and your experiences during Thanksgiving. I look forward to hearing from you.
Helen
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Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Monday, November 9, 2009
Having Faith While On the Unemployed Journey
“Faith is much better than belief.
Belief is when someone else
does the thinking.”
R. Buckmender
YEAH!!! We are in control and do not have to depend solely on anyone else while journeying along this unemployed path.
My interpretation of R. Buckmender’s quote is that we have the ability to make our own choices instead of waiting for someone else to tell us what to do.
This does not mean we should not seek support, learn from other’s experiences or be open to possibilities. What it does mean we should do our own thinking, research, and take action steps.
In the long run the task of finding another job is in our own hands.
Let me tell you a little story.
Jane’s last job was an office manager for a large non-profit organization. She worked there for over 15 years and always felt this was her last job before retiring.
Surprise, surprise things did not go as planned. The non-profit was losing funding for awhile and one day a decision was made to reorganize. Unfortunately, Jane’s division was effected and she was one of the 20 people laid-off.
At first she was in denial and could not believe what was happening. Then reality set in, she was off and running to find a new job.
Jane contacted many people, they told her they would look around and see what was happening. She truly believed that someone would find another job for her. Jane waited patiently for someone to call her back with a job interview. As time past nothing happened.
Instead of doing her research, taking action steps Jane was hoping others would do the work for her. Unfortunately, in most cases finding a job does not work out this way. You have to be proactive even though you have the belief someone will help you find a job.
One of the key ingredients for finding a job is have faith you will be employed again and at the same time keep working diligently even though you have a possibility. As we have all learned things fall through and why put your eggs in one basket.
Remember…we all will be working again it is only a matter of time.
Are you playing our game?
Monday is Smile Day
• Walk out your front door and go to the nearest coffee shop.
• Walking into the coffee shop put a smile on your face. You don’t have to mean it just use those smile muscles. It is a scientific fact when you use your smile muscles your body has no clue whether you are smiling.
• Make eye contact with the first person you see with that smile on your face.
• Continue playing this game.
Eventually your smile will become natural, people will start talking to each other and YOU will feel better.
A smile costs you nothing and lightens up the world.
Looking forward to hearing about your experiences regarding belief vs. faith while on your unemployed journey.
Enjoy your day and smile often. Love to hear what attitude shifts are happening while playing our little game.
Helen
Belief is when someone else
does the thinking.”
R. Buckmender
YEAH!!! We are in control and do not have to depend solely on anyone else while journeying along this unemployed path.
My interpretation of R. Buckmender’s quote is that we have the ability to make our own choices instead of waiting for someone else to tell us what to do.
This does not mean we should not seek support, learn from other’s experiences or be open to possibilities. What it does mean we should do our own thinking, research, and take action steps.
In the long run the task of finding another job is in our own hands.
Let me tell you a little story.
Jane’s last job was an office manager for a large non-profit organization. She worked there for over 15 years and always felt this was her last job before retiring.
Surprise, surprise things did not go as planned. The non-profit was losing funding for awhile and one day a decision was made to reorganize. Unfortunately, Jane’s division was effected and she was one of the 20 people laid-off.
At first she was in denial and could not believe what was happening. Then reality set in, she was off and running to find a new job.
Jane contacted many people, they told her they would look around and see what was happening. She truly believed that someone would find another job for her. Jane waited patiently for someone to call her back with a job interview. As time past nothing happened.
Instead of doing her research, taking action steps Jane was hoping others would do the work for her. Unfortunately, in most cases finding a job does not work out this way. You have to be proactive even though you have the belief someone will help you find a job.
One of the key ingredients for finding a job is have faith you will be employed again and at the same time keep working diligently even though you have a possibility. As we have all learned things fall through and why put your eggs in one basket.
Remember…we all will be working again it is only a matter of time.
Are you playing our game?
Monday is Smile Day
• Walk out your front door and go to the nearest coffee shop.
• Walking into the coffee shop put a smile on your face. You don’t have to mean it just use those smile muscles. It is a scientific fact when you use your smile muscles your body has no clue whether you are smiling.
• Make eye contact with the first person you see with that smile on your face.
• Continue playing this game.
Eventually your smile will become natural, people will start talking to each other and YOU will feel better.
A smile costs you nothing and lightens up the world.
Looking forward to hearing about your experiences regarding belief vs. faith while on your unemployed journey.
Enjoy your day and smile often. Love to hear what attitude shifts are happening while playing our little game.
Helen
Monday, November 2, 2009
Sunday is Vacation Day for the Unemployed
“Be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars.
In the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.”
Max Ehrmann
Sunday is a day to be gentle with yourself. The other 6 days of the week are for worrying, constantly taking risks and pushing yourself harder each day.
Sunday most businesses are closed. You can also close your business for a day.
Today is time for a vacation. What makes you happy? Watch a sports game, take the family away for the day, ride your bike, etc.
No excuses, you deserve a day of rest!
When we give ourselves permission to take a vacation from the stresses in our lives we instantly feel better and start to enjoy ourselves.
Let’s make Sunday, Vacation Day.
Vacation Tips for Sunday:
• Eat a picnic lunch near the water or in the woods. I know it might be cold this time of year so bundle up.
• Bike ride or hike along a quiet path in a wooded area.
• Window shop and plan how to re-decorate your favorite room.
• Invite friends to your house and have a pot-luck dinner.
• Put your feet up and take a nap on the couch.
• Watch an old movie on television.
• Sleep late or go to bed early.
• Read a good book.
• Go to a park and watch a football game.
• Take your art supplies out of hiding and start working on your master piece.
Let’s add Sunday to our little game.
• Monday is Smile Day.
• Tuesday is Dancing Day.
• Wednesday is Miracle Awareness Day.
• Thursday is Feeling Like a Winner Day.
• Friday is Acknowledging your Strengths Day.
• Saturday is Friendship Day.
• Sunday is Vacation Day.
Continue playing the game and let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know about your different experiences.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars.
In the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.”
Max Ehrmann
Sunday is a day to be gentle with yourself. The other 6 days of the week are for worrying, constantly taking risks and pushing yourself harder each day.
Sunday most businesses are closed. You can also close your business for a day.
Today is time for a vacation. What makes you happy? Watch a sports game, take the family away for the day, ride your bike, etc.
No excuses, you deserve a day of rest!
When we give ourselves permission to take a vacation from the stresses in our lives we instantly feel better and start to enjoy ourselves.
Let’s make Sunday, Vacation Day.
Vacation Tips for Sunday:
• Eat a picnic lunch near the water or in the woods. I know it might be cold this time of year so bundle up.
• Bike ride or hike along a quiet path in a wooded area.
• Window shop and plan how to re-decorate your favorite room.
• Invite friends to your house and have a pot-luck dinner.
• Put your feet up and take a nap on the couch.
• Watch an old movie on television.
• Sleep late or go to bed early.
• Read a good book.
• Go to a park and watch a football game.
• Take your art supplies out of hiding and start working on your master piece.
Let’s add Sunday to our little game.
• Monday is Smile Day.
• Tuesday is Dancing Day.
• Wednesday is Miracle Awareness Day.
• Thursday is Feeling Like a Winner Day.
• Friday is Acknowledging your Strengths Day.
• Saturday is Friendship Day.
• Sunday is Vacation Day.
Continue playing the game and let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know about your different experiences.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Unemployed Risk-Taker
“A lot of successful people are risk-takers.
Unless you’re willing to do that –
to have a go, fail miserably,
and have another go,
success won’t happen.”
Phillip Adams
(Australian writer)
Why, Why, Why do we have to be risk-takers and sometimes fail miserably to be successful? Do you hate being in the ranks of the unemployed and having to go through this period in your life? I know your answer is a loud, “YES.”
Remember nothing last forever. There is always a silver lining at the end of the rainbow. The next question would be “How do I find that silver lining?” The answer is quite simple take a risk, sometimes fail, get-up and take the next step in front of you.
I know after your hopes have been dashed again it is a struggle to go on. Give yourself a break and feel the pain. You are only human and can only take so much.
During this time, pamper yourself. What are you going to do nice for yourself?
Okay time is up and on to the next step. Below are some small steps you can take to restore your faith and become the risk-taker again.
• Write down your accomplishments.
• Pick-up the phone (don’t make a call) and start reading your accomplishments outloud.
• Put music on and dance around the room.
• Take a small risk that you know will be successful.
• Stand tall and become that powerful person you are.
Remember thousands of people have been unemployed and found that perfect job. You will be one of them real soon.
Now It Is Your Turn!
Send a list of your accomplishments to the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Let’s celebrate together!
If you are stuck please let me or the community know and we will brainstorm ideas together. Remember you are not in this ALONE.
Helen
Unless you’re willing to do that –
to have a go, fail miserably,
and have another go,
success won’t happen.”
Phillip Adams
(Australian writer)
Why, Why, Why do we have to be risk-takers and sometimes fail miserably to be successful? Do you hate being in the ranks of the unemployed and having to go through this period in your life? I know your answer is a loud, “YES.”
Remember nothing last forever. There is always a silver lining at the end of the rainbow. The next question would be “How do I find that silver lining?” The answer is quite simple take a risk, sometimes fail, get-up and take the next step in front of you.
I know after your hopes have been dashed again it is a struggle to go on. Give yourself a break and feel the pain. You are only human and can only take so much.
During this time, pamper yourself. What are you going to do nice for yourself?
Okay time is up and on to the next step. Below are some small steps you can take to restore your faith and become the risk-taker again.
• Write down your accomplishments.
• Pick-up the phone (don’t make a call) and start reading your accomplishments outloud.
• Put music on and dance around the room.
• Take a small risk that you know will be successful.
• Stand tall and become that powerful person you are.
Remember thousands of people have been unemployed and found that perfect job. You will be one of them real soon.
Now It Is Your Turn!
Send a list of your accomplishments to the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Let’s celebrate together!
If you are stuck please let me or the community know and we will brainstorm ideas together. Remember you are not in this ALONE.
Helen
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Help for the Unemployed
“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find one at the end of your arm…”
Audrey Hepburn
It is so easy to forget the most powerful person you have supporting you while on the unemployed journey is YOURSELF. We are constantly looking for others to help. Even though there are others who encourage us, when you come down to the basic truth we are the ones who daily reassure ourselves to continue on the path.
Reassuring yourself can be a difficult task when things are quiet and you have exhausted all your ideas. The important thing to remember while traveling on this journey you will have ups and downs. Some days will be very active with interviews, networking, contacting different leads, etc. and others will be slow.
When you are busy the energy is flowing and hope is running through your veins. On the slow days you have to work extra hard to keep your emotional well being in check.
During the quiet days you can look at them as a special gift instead of losing faith and starting to worry. I know it is hard to turn the feelings around.
Some easy steps you can take are below:
• List all the things that made you happy the last few days. Example: Taking the kids to the park, watching them laugh and have fun.
• Review your successes over the last few weeks. Example: Met two new members at the Networking Event last week and we are having coffee tomorrow.
• Take one small step today that you never tried. Example: Research one of the companies you would like to work for and call to schedule an informational interview. This type of interview is to speak with someone in the same field you are pursuing to see how they got started and if they can offer any advice. Remember people love to talk about themselves.
You are never alone you have yourself and others who love and care about you.
One of the simplest ways of receiving support is to leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog. We are all on this journey together.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
you’ll find one at the end of your arm…”
Audrey Hepburn
It is so easy to forget the most powerful person you have supporting you while on the unemployed journey is YOURSELF. We are constantly looking for others to help. Even though there are others who encourage us, when you come down to the basic truth we are the ones who daily reassure ourselves to continue on the path.
Reassuring yourself can be a difficult task when things are quiet and you have exhausted all your ideas. The important thing to remember while traveling on this journey you will have ups and downs. Some days will be very active with interviews, networking, contacting different leads, etc. and others will be slow.
When you are busy the energy is flowing and hope is running through your veins. On the slow days you have to work extra hard to keep your emotional well being in check.
During the quiet days you can look at them as a special gift instead of losing faith and starting to worry. I know it is hard to turn the feelings around.
Some easy steps you can take are below:
• List all the things that made you happy the last few days. Example: Taking the kids to the park, watching them laugh and have fun.
• Review your successes over the last few weeks. Example: Met two new members at the Networking Event last week and we are having coffee tomorrow.
• Take one small step today that you never tried. Example: Research one of the companies you would like to work for and call to schedule an informational interview. This type of interview is to speak with someone in the same field you are pursuing to see how they got started and if they can offer any advice. Remember people love to talk about themselves.
You are never alone you have yourself and others who love and care about you.
One of the simplest ways of receiving support is to leave a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters Blog. We are all on this journey together.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Looking for a Job
“Difficult Times
Don’t Last Forever
Sometimes, the problems you must face
are more than you wish to cope with,
and tomorrow doesn’t seem to offer any solutions.
You may ask yourself “Why Me?”
but the answer is sometimes unclear.
You may even tend to feel that life hasn’t
been just or fair to burden you with such obstacles.
The roads any of us choose to follow are never free
of bumps or curves, but eventually the turns
lead to a smoother path ahead.
Believe in yourself and your dreams.
You will soon realize that
the future holds many promises for you.
Remember…difficult times don’t last forever.”
Geri Danks
Does the quote above sound familiar are you constantly asking, “Why Me?” Some days can be harder than others and the amazing thing life goes on while we are looking for a job.
Finding what gives you a sense of security is the secret of surviving the days before you. Some small steps you can take to reassure yourself are below.
Small Steps
1. Get out of bed, look in the mirror and reassure yourself you are still the same person. Most times our identity became our job. Speaking with others we always spoke about our job and what happened that day. Now things have changed and we are lost. By looking in the mirror and reminding yourself you are still the same person helps build confidence.
2. Plan your day. Having structure in your day gives us a sense of power and control. Just floating around doing whatever is before us we often feel nothing is being accomplished. It is very important that we feel things are being accomplished to give us strength to continue looking for that special job.
3. Take a mini-vacation. A mini-vacation is taking at least 10 minutes a day just for you. Taking that time reinforces the fact you are important. Mini-vacations can be making yourself a cup of coffee or tea and reading a fun novel; take a walk around the block; listen to a comedy CD that makes you laugh; etc…
You are in control of your day and can choose to either focus on “Why Me?” or take tiny steps to brighten your day.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what tiny steps you are taking to ensure your day is productive while looking for a job.
I look forward to hearing from you and let me know how I can support you while looking for a job.
Helen
Don’t Last Forever
Sometimes, the problems you must face
are more than you wish to cope with,
and tomorrow doesn’t seem to offer any solutions.
You may ask yourself “Why Me?”
but the answer is sometimes unclear.
You may even tend to feel that life hasn’t
been just or fair to burden you with such obstacles.
The roads any of us choose to follow are never free
of bumps or curves, but eventually the turns
lead to a smoother path ahead.
Believe in yourself and your dreams.
You will soon realize that
the future holds many promises for you.
Remember…difficult times don’t last forever.”
Geri Danks
Does the quote above sound familiar are you constantly asking, “Why Me?” Some days can be harder than others and the amazing thing life goes on while we are looking for a job.
Finding what gives you a sense of security is the secret of surviving the days before you. Some small steps you can take to reassure yourself are below.
Small Steps
1. Get out of bed, look in the mirror and reassure yourself you are still the same person. Most times our identity became our job. Speaking with others we always spoke about our job and what happened that day. Now things have changed and we are lost. By looking in the mirror and reminding yourself you are still the same person helps build confidence.
2. Plan your day. Having structure in your day gives us a sense of power and control. Just floating around doing whatever is before us we often feel nothing is being accomplished. It is very important that we feel things are being accomplished to give us strength to continue looking for that special job.
3. Take a mini-vacation. A mini-vacation is taking at least 10 minutes a day just for you. Taking that time reinforces the fact you are important. Mini-vacations can be making yourself a cup of coffee or tea and reading a fun novel; take a walk around the block; listen to a comedy CD that makes you laugh; etc…
You are in control of your day and can choose to either focus on “Why Me?” or take tiny steps to brighten your day.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community what tiny steps you are taking to ensure your day is productive while looking for a job.
I look forward to hearing from you and let me know how I can support you while looking for a job.
Helen
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