Feeling Comfortable at a Party
Do you sometimes go to a party, feel uncomfortable because you don’t want to eat everything insight and most people are making a pig of themselves? If you answered yes to this question you are not unique. If you would ask 100 people this question I am sure a majority would answer the question with a loud “YES.”
I was talking to a client last week who was invited to a Christmas party, who has been eating healthy and losing weight. She was very nervous about going to the party and in no way wanted to change her plan of eating. We discussed her fear which was real and should not be ignored. Her greatest fear was that she would just start eating and not be able to stop. I reassured her she always had a choice and no one could make her do anything she did not want to do. My telling her this did not make her feel better.
We then brainstormed ideas she could use when she got to the party to give her confidence. Some of the ideas were:
1. Call her friend and see what she was serving.
2. Plan what she will eat before going to the party.
3. Put the rock she received from her daughter in her pocket and touch it often to remind herself that she is special.
4. Only put food on her plate she planned to eat.
5. Under no circumstances go back for more food.
6. Talk to two people who are not her close friends and find out about them.
7. Go to the bathroom whenever she felt overwhelmed and picture a bright light protecting you.
8. Seek out friends at the party and ask for support.
9. When she got home to send me an email letting me know about her experience.
10.Reward herself with reading a fun novel before going to sleep.
My client went to the party last night and I received an email saying she ate healthy and had the best time ever because she was able to listen to everyone instead of focusing on the food.
Now is your turn to prepare before going to a party. I would love to hear what steps you plan to take in order to ensure you eat healthy at the party and take care of yourself after the party. I can be reached by leaving comments on this blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Showing posts with label changing eating habits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label changing eating habits. Show all posts
Friday, December 7, 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Changing Eating Behaviors
The First Step You Take
Is Always
The Most Important One
“The first few steps you take on any journey
won’t get you where you want to go.
But without those first steps
and the many more that follow,
you would always be standing
right where you are,
looking towards the future
and wondering what it would
really be like
to see your world
the way you always dreamed it could be.”
Nick Santana
Interesting quote. It makes me thing about how a baby gets up and tries to take that first step. Sometimes they fall down and other times they take a few steps and then fall down. They keep trying until finally they can walk across the room. I remember my daughter Jill’s first steps and the smile on her face when she was able to walk across the room.
I am thinking we never lose that ability to keep trying until we succeed, it only gets buried under our ego, thoughts and fears. How can we awaken the desire to continue taking those first steps?
What usually works is a desire to make a change. Let’s take for instance you want to lose 20 pounds by Christmas. Your ego and thoughts want to protect you from failure so they tell you, “It is impossible to lose 20 pounds by Christmas, so why even try and look at all the fun you will miss by not eating your mother’s Christmas cookies.” Listening to your ego and thoughts you decide not to go on a diet until after New Years.
Let’s change the situation. Your ego and thoughts still tell you the same story, however, you want to lose some weight before Christmas. Your first step is to read the “Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Blog and find some tools you can use to change your behavior. You re-read the November 7, 2007 article and like some of the steps that were suggested. Making a decision you are going to try the following two steps:
1. STOP dieting and eat one healthy meal a day.
2. Look in the mirror every morning and tell myself out loud, “I love you.” At first it may be hard and as time goes on it gets easier.
By taking any small steps it will renew the same ability you had as a baby to keep striving until you reach your goal. It does not matter if you fail only whether you continue taking the steps until your new behavior becomes a habit. As Nick Santana states in his quote, the first steps are the most important because it starts you on your journey of taking the required steps to see your dream come true.
I invite you to start taking one to two small steps and continue taking them everyday until they become a habit before changing your plan or adding additional steps. It has been proven that it takes 21 days to change a habit. Please let me know how you are progressing and if you need any support. I can be reached by leaving a comment on this blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Is Always
The Most Important One
“The first few steps you take on any journey
won’t get you where you want to go.
But without those first steps
and the many more that follow,
you would always be standing
right where you are,
looking towards the future
and wondering what it would
really be like
to see your world
the way you always dreamed it could be.”
Nick Santana
Interesting quote. It makes me thing about how a baby gets up and tries to take that first step. Sometimes they fall down and other times they take a few steps and then fall down. They keep trying until finally they can walk across the room. I remember my daughter Jill’s first steps and the smile on her face when she was able to walk across the room.
I am thinking we never lose that ability to keep trying until we succeed, it only gets buried under our ego, thoughts and fears. How can we awaken the desire to continue taking those first steps?
What usually works is a desire to make a change. Let’s take for instance you want to lose 20 pounds by Christmas. Your ego and thoughts want to protect you from failure so they tell you, “It is impossible to lose 20 pounds by Christmas, so why even try and look at all the fun you will miss by not eating your mother’s Christmas cookies.” Listening to your ego and thoughts you decide not to go on a diet until after New Years.
Let’s change the situation. Your ego and thoughts still tell you the same story, however, you want to lose some weight before Christmas. Your first step is to read the “Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Blog and find some tools you can use to change your behavior. You re-read the November 7, 2007 article and like some of the steps that were suggested. Making a decision you are going to try the following two steps:
1. STOP dieting and eat one healthy meal a day.
2. Look in the mirror every morning and tell myself out loud, “I love you.” At first it may be hard and as time goes on it gets easier.
By taking any small steps it will renew the same ability you had as a baby to keep striving until you reach your goal. It does not matter if you fail only whether you continue taking the steps until your new behavior becomes a habit. As Nick Santana states in his quote, the first steps are the most important because it starts you on your journey of taking the required steps to see your dream come true.
I invite you to start taking one to two small steps and continue taking them everyday until they become a habit before changing your plan or adding additional steps. It has been proven that it takes 21 days to change a habit. Please let me know how you are progressing and if you need any support. I can be reached by leaving a comment on this blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Changing Eating Habits
Autobiography in Five Short Chaptersby Portia Nelson
Chapter I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit… but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
Chapter IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
Chapter V
I walk down another street.
Every time I read this autobiography, it makes me think of my behavior when it came to my denial with food. I would always tell myself, “This time I will only eat a small portion of a muffin and save the rest for later." Who was I kidding? Me of course because one bite always led to many muffins. This behavior continued for most of my life until one day a miracle happened and I was able to realize that one bite leads to a thousand bites.
Would you like to try an experiment today? Whenever you want to eat something not on your eating plan read the poem above and see what happens. Please let me know what happens by leaving a comment on the blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
Chapter I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.
Chapter II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
Chapter III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in… it’s a habit… but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
Chapter IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
Chapter V
I walk down another street.
Every time I read this autobiography, it makes me think of my behavior when it came to my denial with food. I would always tell myself, “This time I will only eat a small portion of a muffin and save the rest for later." Who was I kidding? Me of course because one bite always led to many muffins. This behavior continued for most of my life until one day a miracle happened and I was able to realize that one bite leads to a thousand bites.
Would you like to try an experiment today? Whenever you want to eat something not on your eating plan read the poem above and see what happens. Please let me know what happens by leaving a comment on the blog or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I am looking forward to hearing from you.
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