Being Selfish While on the Unemployed Journey

“Sometimes it seems I've spent my life
trying to live up to others' expectations of me,
and failing. I never thought much about pleasing myself.
That would have been "selfish."
--JoAnn Reed

Isn’t it ironic we spend most of our lives trying to please other people and never thinking about what would make us happy?

Then when we lose our job we blame ourselves and never take into consideration it could be a blessing in disguise. How many of us hated our job and always thought, “Only if I could find another job that I really loved?”

Now that we are traveling the unemployed journey we keep thinking our last job was the perfect job. We have a tendency to always turn our thinking around and put things we lost on a pedestal.

Let’s get real here for a moment and think about what you hated about your last job.

Here is your opportunity to start pleasing yourself, maybe for the first time in your life, and find a job that will make you happy.

This is not an easy task!

Some little steps you can take to start the process:
• Think back through the years about what made you happy. Examples: being with people, drawing, crafts, writing, science, etc.
• List these ideas on a piece of paper. Be honest this is for your eyes only.
• Rate them from 1 to 3. One being the least interesting and three brings a smile to your face.
• List all the number one ideas.
• Chose which one really makes you excited.

Once you have decided which one makes you energized it is time to explore your options.

For today think about your new found realization. Tomorrow is another day and we can explore your options.

Enjoy the happiness you are experiencing!

Share your uncovered passion with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Remember…we are all in this together. Let’s make this unemployment journey a time of learning and turning our lives around.
I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Helen