Being Your Own Best Friend

"Friendship with oneself is very important
because without it
one cannot be friends with anyone
else in the world."
Eleanor Roosevelt

Being your own best friend is the hardest accomplishment we will ever achieve in our lives. Do you sometimes think, “I would never want to be my own best friend?”

Relax, you are not alone.

It is so easy to have thoughts that will make us feel miserable and take the sail out of our winds. Why does this happen? Some of us were taught as children, don’t brag about your accomplishments because no one will like you.

Having no one like us could be the most tragic thing in our lives. Everyone wants to be liked even if our behavior sometimes does not indicate this feeling. We are all in conflict with wanting to be liked and protecting our ego.

What is a person to do?

Let’s stop now and take a bend in the road. It’s bragging time at the old homestead. Starting this moment put a smile on your face and think about three accomplishments you are proud of and want the world to know. Don’t worry no one will hear you.

How do you feel?

Excited and scared at the same time. It is only natural to feel this way and with practice your new behavior of acknowledging your accomplishments will feel acceptable.

Start slowly! Below are some easy steps you can take for becoming your own best friend.

• Standing in front of the mirror with your eyes closed say, “I am beautiful.” When you feel comfortable slowly open your eyes, look in the mirror and say, “Hi.”
• Closing your eyes at night before going to sleep, tell yourself, “I am my own best friend.”
• Write down in a special journal your accomplishments during the day and how you feel.

Taking the time to treat ourselves special increases our self-confidence, makes us happier and we are kinder to ourselves and others.

Remember treat my best friend, _____________ like the special person he/she has become.

Now It is Your Turn:
Please try one or all of the exercises above and let the Love Yourself – It Matters Community know what miracles start happening in your life. It is bragging time at the old homestead.

Helen