January 2009 is coming to an end, are you thinking, “I should have stayed on my diet and would have lost 10 pounds by now.” What happened?
Resolutions don’t work. We are human beings and have our own way of living our lives. Sometimes we are being kind to ourselves and then on the other hand being our own worst enemy.
Are you thinking that living your life without self-control is being kind to yourself or is it self-indulgence? There is a difference.
Self-indulgence is acting on our gratification of desire without thinking about consequences. Looking at a piece of cake and saying to yourself, “One piece won’t hurt” and then continue eating half the cake.
Self-kindness on the other hand is asking yourself first, “What consequences will occur if I act on my desire?” By choosing not to eat that piece of cake and taking a piece of fruit instead you are being kind to You. Once you start making choices which will empower you, your life becomes easier.
I guess your next question is how do I get started? This can be accomplished by taking a small step and with practice you will be making healthy choices without thinking about them.
The first step: before you take an action stop ask yourself, “Will this help or hurt me? Keep practicing this thought provoking step until you see yourself making different changes.
This is a topic I would like to continue exploring. Please let me know your thoughts regarding self-indulgence vs. self-kindness. Together we can create a way for each and everyone of us to practice self-kindness instead of self-indulgence.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
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Thank you for this Helen. Yesterday I found out my cholesterol is 7+... My Doc is away on vacation for a week. So it's up to me to start now. Might be thyroid functioning, but whatever, I could lose a bit of weight anyway. I'm off for a walk. Instead of around the park then into the car and up to the shops (for fruit and vegetables) I'm WALKING up to the shops. Good for me!
I've also started another blog - very boring, in which I list (without fibbing) everything I eat each day. Like I say, boring to anyone else, but I'm hoping it will keep me to my aim.
I love this. I mistook self-indulgence for self-kindness for a long time. I have finally gotten to the point where some of the indulgences don't work anymore, which is frustrating and freeing all at the same time. I just keep taking the baby steps in self-love.
Hi Katherine:
What is the name of your new blog? You are amazing finding a way to become accountable. Helen
Hi Yertle:
Isn't it amazing when we become aware of self-indulgence and self-kindness our perspective changes. Keep in touch and let me know what changes you are making since you are seeing the difference. Good luck! Helen
Hi Katherine:
Hope you enjoyed your walk and enjoying the vegetables. Do you have any simple receipes for cooking vegetables. Helen
Hello Helen. My main blog is 'The Last Visible Dog' - and I go on lots of walks and photograph all sorts of things on them, and post about them. If you search for that name plus De Chevalle it comes up.
My new 'diet' blog is 'The One With the Bread' http://theonewiththebread.blogspot.com/
I have a double saucepan steamer and for thirty years do my vegetables this way, or as casseroles or stir-fries. I try to undercook things ('just' done) and watch mixing tomatoes with veggies, because the acid leaches out the goodness. The exception being slow-cooking cheaper tough-but-tasty cuts of meats with tomatoes, parsnips, carrots and onions...
Almost always I use home grown fresh fruit and vegetables, and often from my own garden, or friends'.
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