“One has just to be oneself.
That’s my basic message.
The moment you accept yourself as you are,
All burdens, all mountainous burdens,
simply disappear.
Then life is a sheer joy,
a festival of lights.”
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
Indian spiritual master
What I think Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh was saying in the above quote is to accept yourself as the person you are and happiness will follow. Speaking from experience I know it is very hard sometimes to accept myself as a beautiful person. I can find a hundred things wrong with me. Sometimes I can be my worst enemy.
What do you accomplish by allowing yourself to beat you up? Following are some good reasons?
1. Give yourself permission to feel sorry for yourself.
2. Don’t have to take any risks.
3. Taking a mini-vacation from life.
4. Spend time alone.
During the time you are feeling sorry for yourself, miracles can happen. What am I talking about? While you are feeling sorry for yourself you are constantly thinking about your life and what is happening. Many ideas surface at this time, which you are examining.
Let me tell you a story. Mary, name changed was trained as a computer programmer. Not being able to get a job in her field, she was working as an assistant nursery school teacher. Everyday after school she would go home more depressed than the day before. This situation continued month after month. Until one day during our coaching session she had the bright idea of asking her neighbor, who worked for a computer programming company, how she could get into the field. He was delighted to speak with her. He helped Mary write her resume and also spoke to the human resources director at his company. A miracle happened and Mary was offered a job at the same company. Another miracle happened she started dating her neighbor and they are planning to get married.
In this situation by feeling sorry for herself, Mary came up with ideas that produced miracles.
Today is your day for a miracle to happen. Just for Today if you are feeling sorry for yourself take the following steps:
1. Write about your unhappiness. (Example: I can’t lose weight.)
2. Write down ideas that can change your situation. (Examples: Exercise 20 minutes a day, eat healthy and stop eating chocolate.)
2. Examine each idea and chose one.
3. What small action step are you going to take today? (Example: I am going to walk outside for 20 minutes.)
Let me know how you make out by leaving a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Remember you are a beautiful person and can accomplish anything you want by taking one some step at a time.
Monday, March 24, 2008
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6 comments:
Helen, I really like the way you encourage people to explore the reasons beneath their negative feelings. To examine the real meanings behind our feelings can be very enlightening and empower us to heal our perceived problems from within.
Congratulations on your own personal growth and accomplishments with self-image. It sounds as though you have come a long way to better understanding yourself. Sharing personal lessons learned can be a very effective way to empower others who are ready and willing to help themselves.
Helen,
I understand what you are saying and yet I feel that this is a slippery slope. Feeling sorry for ones self is an interesting way to find answers. Feeling sorry for one self can easily lead to depression, etc.
With the awareness that you are discussing, I can see how one could benefit.
Interesting thought.
Hi Liara:
Thank you. Reading your blog it is also quite evident that you have also been on the self-growth journey. Helen
Hi Mark:
You are right that it could be a slippery ride. It all comes down to your state of thinking. Thanks Helen
Helen,
May I be so bold to take this post a step further... In my experience it is not in feeling sorry for yourself that one finds the answers, it is in asking the questions 'What can I learn from this situation?' and 'How can I ... (in this case) get a job I love? Feeling sorry may cause one to have a deeper understanding of the problem and create the urgency for a solution, but it is in opening up to new possibilities that one finds miracles.
Hi Norea:
Thanks for adding the questions, it gives a person the opening to see what they are learning and how they can move forward. Thanks again. Helen
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