‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’ Eleanor Roosevelt
Do you sometimes think, “Other people’s lives are better than mine.” You are not alone! Things happen in our lives and sometimes the circumstances or people lower our self-esteem. I am finding thru life experiences, learning from different teachers, only I have the choice to make myself feel inferior. Eleanor Roosevelt put it so eloquently in the quote above.
Let me tell you a little story, Carole (name changed) was trying every diet imaginable and was still not losing weight. She felt so frustrated and kept thinking, “Jan, my sister, was so lucky because she could lose weight and keep it off.” To make matters worse everytime she looked in the mirror or had a conversation with her sister about losing weight Carole’s self-esteem plunged lower.
Let’s turn this picture around and see what Carole could have done to build her self-esteem instead of letting people or circumstances make her feel inferior. Following are some small steps Carole could put into practice that will help build her esteem:
1. Acknowledge herself every day by keeping a list of her accomplishments.
2. Tell herself daily what she likes about herself.
3. Eating a healthy meal at least once a day and writing about how she feels.
4. Compliment others for their special gifts.
5. Receive compliments graciously and thank the person.
6. Focus on what she has instead of what she doesn’t have.
7. Read or listen to motivational tapes. (i.e. “Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting” by Lynn Grabhorn.)
8. Do something nice for herself every day.
9. Do something nice for someone else without being found out.
10. Call a good friend and have a good laugh.
What other small steps do you take to build your self-esteem?
I would love for you to join me in writing “Getting Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Blog, by sharing your wisdom, successes and lessons learned. All it takes is one little step, leave a comment or send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoachikng.net.
A special note to anyone who is struggling with food, please leave a comment and I will address your concerns in this blog. Together we will create a plan that will enable you to live a life filled with joy, self-confidence and love.
What are you doing nice for yourself today?
Helen
Monday, September 10, 2007
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4 comments:
Helen,
As usual this is great advice. I think it is extremely important to be careful what we focus on. When we are so focused on our weight we often attract behavior which contibutes to our weight. Focusing on a healthy meal and some form of exercise that we know is key.
I would love to conribute to your blog. Let me know if you have a topic that you would like me to contribute.
Hi Mark:
What a special gift it would be if you wrote an article. If you could write about your experiences dealing with food issues it would be greatly appreciated. If by chance you are not struggling with food any topic would be just fine. Thanks again Helen
Helen,
This was a great post. I find that oftentimes people are concentrating and focusing on what they don't have, almost to the point of distraction. The media doesn't help. You have to actively search out positive role models by joining a club of interest, a class (yoga is a great place to meet positive people), or even blogging (I have the most wonderful, inspiring blogging buddies ever)! I find praying also helps. Having faith and understanding that I'm loved no matter what helps to keep me grounded.
Hi Lisa:
It is great hearing from you. I love the tools you use to bring love and peace in your life. I use the same tools and what a difference my life is today. Thanks Helen
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