Thursday, April 12, 2007

EXPECTATIONS

TWO HORSES

Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it.
From a distance, each looks like every other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing. Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.

This alone is amazing. If nearby and listening, you will hear the sound of a bell. Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field. Attached to her halter is a small bell. It lets her blind friend know where she is, so he can follow her. As you stand and watch these two friends, you'll see how she is always checking on him, and that he will listen for her bell and then slowly walk to where she is, trusting that she will not lead him astray. When she returns to the shelter of the barn each evening, she stops occasionally and looks back, making sure her friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell.

Like the owners of these two horses, God does not throw us away just because we are not perfect or because we have problems or challenges. He watches over us and even brings others into our lives to help us when we are in need. Sometimes we are the blind horse being guided by the little ringing bell of those who God places in our lives. Other times we are the guide horse, helping others see.

Good friends are like this ... You don't always see them, but you know they are always there. Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours. "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

Name of Author was not included in email and I do not in anyway take credit for writing the story.

I received this inspirational story in an email and thought it would be a beautiful story to post on my blog, unfortunately I do not know who wrote this moving story.

Everytime I read this short story, I have tears in my eyes. It is so beautiful how one horse has no expectations for the other horse and just helps him. I was thinking this morning before getting out of bed how I sometimes have such expectations for others and when they don’t meet my standards I get very angry. Thinking who am I to have such expectations for others not only hurts me and the other person it also kills our relationship.

Tools for Today

• Today my intention is to love everyone for who they are and when I have a negative thought about someone to STOP and think of two things I love about them.
• Apologize to my husband for my expectations and let him know how much I appreciate him.
• Call a friend and let them know how thankful I am for their friendship.

What tools do you use, I would love to know.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I always try to remember that people cannot read my mind and that everyone has a different perception of the world. If you have expectations of someone, make it very clear and if they choose not to live up to that then that is ok too - they have the free choice to do what they want to.

Remembering that we can't control others is really important.

Lovely story - thank you

Anonymous said...

Hi Jomay:

It certainly makes our life easier when we remember that everyone has their own agenda and to accept thier choices. At the same time reassure ourselves that we are also important.

Helen

Anonymous said...

Helen,
I love this story, it has been one of my favorites for a long time.
Replacing your expectations of people with gratitude for who they are is a wonderful exercise!
Expectations are not a bad thing, they can help people develop and grow. Expectations only become negative when we allow our expectations of others determine their value to us.