“We have all been placed on this earth
to discover your own path,
and we will never be happy
if we live someone else’s
idea of life.”
James Van Praagh
What a powerful quote! How easy to live someone else’s idea of life. We don’t have to make choices or take a risk. The only problem we lose our identity and are sometimes filled with resentment.
Questioning who we are and what the purpose of our life are the hidden agendas of our beings. We have a drive within to feel good about ourselves and accomplish activities that make us excel.
Cheryl a very successful doctor married and has two grown children. She has been feeling her life has no meaning. Her children are both married have children of their own and are busy with their lives. Cheryl resents the fact she only hears from them if they need something. This is her perception.
She has lived her life through her children and husband. It does not matter she is a very successful doctor with patients who absolutely love her.
Asking Cheryl about her practice she dismisses it and says, “It is no big deal, my husband and children are more successful than me.”
What is wrong with this picture??
This opinion is not limited to women only, men also have the misconception if their partner makes more money they are more successful in their eyes.
What is success??
We sometimes are under the misconception that if a person makes more money they are successful. This idea is farther from the truth.
Success is what makes us feel good and a sense of accomplishment. Living our own life gives us this sense of fulfillment.
Working with Cheryl, she started discovering what a beautiful and successful person she had become. Today Cheryl acknowledges her special gifts, shares her life with others and feels content. What a beautiful gift she has given herself.
Some of the small steps Cheryl took to change her life perception:
• Everyday wrote in her “Me” journal what special gifts she were aware of that day.
• Took time to do nice things for herself at least once a week.
• Shared her ideas and dreams with her husband. This big, big step improved their relationship. Now they plan together.
• Invited her children to different events and let them know they were under NO obligation to accept the invitation. A miracle happened by giving her children an invitation with no pressure has opened a door of communication.
Living our own life and sharing it with others has given us a beautiful gift and freedom to accomplish our private dreams.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! blog community the experiences and miracles you have received while living your own life and sharing it with others.
Have a beautiful Memorial Day Weekend!!! Remember you are a special person and taking care of yourself with food and in stressful circumstances will give you the greatest gift possible.
Helen
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Pet Stories
Do you have a pet? I have two cats and their names are Alfie, a black cat with a white patch on his stomach and Alice who is white and grey with a pink nose. Both my cats have different personalities. Alfie is very loving and Alice considers herself a princess.
Both cats are teaching me how to love and accept love unconditionally. LOVE has always been easier for me to give then to receive. I'd much rather give someone a gift and watch them excitedly opened their present. On the other hand, when someone gives me a present, I feel embarrassed.
One day, Alice was sitting on my desk while I was writing my blog and just looking at me with love in her eyes (my interpretation). I realized how uncomfortable I felt having her stare at me. What I wanted to do was pet her and stop feeling uncomfortable. Instead, I made myself sit there and enjoy the moment.
That evening, I was out to dinner with a few friends and telling them how uncomfortable I felt when Alice was staring at me with love in her eyes. Others at the table started talking about their pets and how special they were in their lives. Some of the stories are as follows:
• Jay was taking a hike in the park with his dog. Suddenly he tripped over a tree branch and fell. His dog, Spike, laid down next to him and started barking until someone came running to see what was happening. The man checked to see if Jay was alright and called 911. Jay had broken his ankle and now is perfectly fine. Spike is Jay's hero.
• Chris told us how her cat, Sadie, always sits on the floor next to her while she is working on the computer. Chris is a technical writer and sometimes experiences writers block. Sadie being there gives her moral support to continue working.
Accepting the gift of love, even from a pet, enriches your life in the following ways:
• Feeling of being wanted
• Creates intimacy
• Sense of importance
• Ability to return the love
• Supported in many ways
I would love to hear your pet stories. Please send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or leave them in the comment section.
Heleen
Both cats are teaching me how to love and accept love unconditionally. LOVE has always been easier for me to give then to receive. I'd much rather give someone a gift and watch them excitedly opened their present. On the other hand, when someone gives me a present, I feel embarrassed.
One day, Alice was sitting on my desk while I was writing my blog and just looking at me with love in her eyes (my interpretation). I realized how uncomfortable I felt having her stare at me. What I wanted to do was pet her and stop feeling uncomfortable. Instead, I made myself sit there and enjoy the moment.
That evening, I was out to dinner with a few friends and telling them how uncomfortable I felt when Alice was staring at me with love in her eyes. Others at the table started talking about their pets and how special they were in their lives. Some of the stories are as follows:
• Jay was taking a hike in the park with his dog. Suddenly he tripped over a tree branch and fell. His dog, Spike, laid down next to him and started barking until someone came running to see what was happening. The man checked to see if Jay was alright and called 911. Jay had broken his ankle and now is perfectly fine. Spike is Jay's hero.
• Chris told us how her cat, Sadie, always sits on the floor next to her while she is working on the computer. Chris is a technical writer and sometimes experiences writers block. Sadie being there gives her moral support to continue working.
Accepting the gift of love, even from a pet, enriches your life in the following ways:
• Feeling of being wanted
• Creates intimacy
• Sense of importance
• Ability to return the love
• Supported in many ways
I would love to hear your pet stories. Please send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net or leave them in the comment section.
Heleen
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Accepting the Ordinary
Most people automatically focus on what is not going right in their lives instead of the ordinary blessings occurring everyday.
We are bombarded by the drama shown in the movies, news and television. We become addicted to the excitement. Naturally we look for the drama in our lives to satisfy that addiction.
Look at your everyday ordinary activities, taking the garbage out, going to work, cooking meals and driving carpools. We take these activities for granted.
What would happen if one day we were unable to perform these ordinary tasks? At first, most of us would be grateful for a few days off and then reality would set in. Not being able to perform our usual activities creates a sense of lose.
One step you can take is start expressing your gratitude for the ordinary things in your life.
You might ask yourself, “It sounds like a good idea and not an easy thing to accomplish.”
Below are some ways you can make the transition:
• Watch the sun rise or set and express to another person how beautiful the sky looked.
• Tell your partner before going to sleep 3 things that made you happy during the day.
• Say a pray thanking the Universe for the little things in your life.
• Taking the garbage out put a smile on your face and feel the joy for doing this little task.
Expressing joy for the ordinary things in life brings you satisfaction and happiness. What a simple gift we can give ourselves that produces such meaningful results.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community the ordinary in your life and how these activities make you happy. Together we can support each other in making changes that will make us happy and bring serenity in our lives.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
We are bombarded by the drama shown in the movies, news and television. We become addicted to the excitement. Naturally we look for the drama in our lives to satisfy that addiction.
Look at your everyday ordinary activities, taking the garbage out, going to work, cooking meals and driving carpools. We take these activities for granted.
What would happen if one day we were unable to perform these ordinary tasks? At first, most of us would be grateful for a few days off and then reality would set in. Not being able to perform our usual activities creates a sense of lose.
One step you can take is start expressing your gratitude for the ordinary things in your life.
You might ask yourself, “It sounds like a good idea and not an easy thing to accomplish.”
Below are some ways you can make the transition:
• Watch the sun rise or set and express to another person how beautiful the sky looked.
• Tell your partner before going to sleep 3 things that made you happy during the day.
• Say a pray thanking the Universe for the little things in your life.
• Taking the garbage out put a smile on your face and feel the joy for doing this little task.
Expressing joy for the ordinary things in life brings you satisfaction and happiness. What a simple gift we can give ourselves that produces such meaningful results.
Please share with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community the ordinary in your life and how these activities make you happy. Together we can support each other in making changes that will make us happy and bring serenity in our lives.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Helen
Sunday, May 3, 2009
One Step At Time
“The elevator to success is out of order.
You’ll have to use the stairs…
one step at a time.”
Joe Girard
Are you someone who thinks, “Why aren’t I more successful at losing weight, building my business or finding a perfect partner?” WELCOME TO THE HUMAN RACE!!
Most of us want things to happen instantly and when it doesn’t our minds start thinking what is wrong with me or it will never happen.
Just a thought, maybe focus on the small steps we are taking to reach our goal instead of thinking everything is so hard.
Sheila was struggling with her weight and felt defeated most of the time. Every time she got on the scale the number either got larger or stayed the same.
What was a woman to do?
Sheila could continually focus on the fact of not losing weight or think about what she was learning in the weight control process.
I know it is sometimes hard to change our mindset. With a little practice we can slowly start thinking in a different way.
Sheila’s mindset changing process:
• Listed daily some of the small steps she was taking to reach her goal.
o A big breakfast helped her feel satisfied during the morning. She no longer focused on being hungry and was able to concentrate on her job.
o Exercised in the morning helped increase her energy. The feeling of being tired all the time disappeared.
• Held a rock in her hand every time she wanted to eat and told herself, “I am beautiful and the food is not going to help me feel better.” This little exercise helped Sheila walk away from the food many a time.
Practicing these two small steps helped Sheila feel good about herself and in time the weight started to disappear.
Let’s keep the Out of Order sign on the elevator and continue to use one step at a time. It is a blessing in disguise.
Please share your thoughts about keeping the elevator Out of Order and using one step at a time to reach your goals.
Helen
You’ll have to use the stairs…
one step at a time.”
Joe Girard
Are you someone who thinks, “Why aren’t I more successful at losing weight, building my business or finding a perfect partner?” WELCOME TO THE HUMAN RACE!!
Most of us want things to happen instantly and when it doesn’t our minds start thinking what is wrong with me or it will never happen.
Just a thought, maybe focus on the small steps we are taking to reach our goal instead of thinking everything is so hard.
Sheila was struggling with her weight and felt defeated most of the time. Every time she got on the scale the number either got larger or stayed the same.
What was a woman to do?
Sheila could continually focus on the fact of not losing weight or think about what she was learning in the weight control process.
I know it is sometimes hard to change our mindset. With a little practice we can slowly start thinking in a different way.
Sheila’s mindset changing process:
• Listed daily some of the small steps she was taking to reach her goal.
o A big breakfast helped her feel satisfied during the morning. She no longer focused on being hungry and was able to concentrate on her job.
o Exercised in the morning helped increase her energy. The feeling of being tired all the time disappeared.
• Held a rock in her hand every time she wanted to eat and told herself, “I am beautiful and the food is not going to help me feel better.” This little exercise helped Sheila walk away from the food many a time.
Practicing these two small steps helped Sheila feel good about herself and in time the weight started to disappear.
Let’s keep the Out of Order sign on the elevator and continue to use one step at a time. It is a blessing in disguise.
Please share your thoughts about keeping the elevator Out of Order and using one step at a time to reach your goals.
Helen
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