Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.
--Shakespeare
Look for the Good
Life is an interpretive experience. What happens is less important than how we respond to our circumstances. An intense stimulus that some people report as pain others report as pleasure. It is we who decide what the interpretation will be.
Are you a "good finder"? A recent study of the country's millionaires showed that the most common trait they all shared was the ability to discover good in any situation. This trait is also common in "triumphant survivors" - those individuals who overcome adversity and emerge strengthened and renewed.
A sincere spiritual seeker suffering from a chronic illness wondered, "Why haven't my prayers been answered?" One day, in deep meditation the reply came: "Look for the good in your situation and you will see that the answer has already been provided." Suddenly this woman realized that her crisis provided a wonderful opportunity. She embarked on a program of nutrition, exercise, and yoga, which led to a dramatic improvement in the quality of her life.
Abraham Lincoln once said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Your state of mind is up to you. Choose now to look for the good.
Thought from Hazelton
What a powerful message. Lately, most of the inspirational messages passing thru my inbox is about how our thinking plays a role in creating peace and happiness in our lives.
Carole was thinking how lonely she was and her husband never gave her any type of support. She used the food to feel better and then was upset because the numbers on the scale were going up instead of down.
After one of our coaching sessions, Carole realized she was making herself feel like a victim instead of taking the action to turn her life around. We discussed small steps she could take to feel peace and love instead of resentment. Carole took a stand and started making small changes in her life. A miracle happened and slowly her thinking and life changed. Today she feels love for herself and others.
Some action steps Carole took:
1. Gave her husband a big hug when he walked in the door. What usually happened he hugged her back which made them both happy.
2. Made plans to take a long weekend instead of waiting for her husband to make them. They both got to go away and enjoy each other.
3. Did something nice for herself each day. Making time for herself made her feel special.
What power and strength we have within ourselves to simply change our thinking and behavior and find the good in everything.
Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Together we will make our lives and world a better place to live.
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Monday Morning Action Call
Start Your Week Out Right
With an Energizing Monday Morning Call!
Do you find yourself going around in circles and not getting anywhere? Do you feel like you are riding a merry-go-round to nowhere? What are your goals? What have you done to reach them lately? Making a list is only the first step. You must take action to reach your goals.
Support and accountability are important motivators toward taking the actions that enable you to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.
Take advantage of the special offer below to get off your unfulfilling merry-go-round of life and start your journey of achievement. Learn how to Make Your Dreams Come True!
Wake-Up Action Call
Starting Monday, June 9, 2008
7:30 am – 8:00 am (Eastern)
Cost: $69/month
(Special rate of $49 if you register by May 31, 2008)
(Includes: Weekly Calls, Group E-mail Support and Coaching from Helen)
You will not only benefit from the support you get from others. You will experience a sense of accomplishment and well-being from supporting others and watching their progress. And, best of all, you will make progress on your personal and professional journey.
RSVP: Take the first step NOW. Sign up today and begin to discover who you are and how to stop riding the merry-go-round to no where.
Simply email helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to sign up
and you will receive the details.
Love Yourself Coaching
Helen J. Burton, CEC, ACC The Love Yourself Coach
With an Energizing Monday Morning Call!
Do you find yourself going around in circles and not getting anywhere? Do you feel like you are riding a merry-go-round to nowhere? What are your goals? What have you done to reach them lately? Making a list is only the first step. You must take action to reach your goals.
Support and accountability are important motivators toward taking the actions that enable you to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.
Take advantage of the special offer below to get off your unfulfilling merry-go-round of life and start your journey of achievement. Learn how to Make Your Dreams Come True!
Wake-Up Action Call
Starting Monday, June 9, 2008
7:30 am – 8:00 am (Eastern)
Cost: $69/month
(Special rate of $49 if you register by May 31, 2008)
(Includes: Weekly Calls, Group E-mail Support and Coaching from Helen)
You will not only benefit from the support you get from others. You will experience a sense of accomplishment and well-being from supporting others and watching their progress. And, best of all, you will make progress on your personal and professional journey.
RSVP: Take the first step NOW. Sign up today and begin to discover who you are and how to stop riding the merry-go-round to no where.
Simply email helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to sign up
and you will receive the details.
Love Yourself Coaching
Helen J. Burton, CEC, ACC The Love Yourself Coach
Monday, May 19, 2008
You are the Power of Your World
“You are the only person who thinks in your mind.
You are the power and authority of your world.
…You get to have whatever you choice to think.”Louise Hay
What a powerful way of thinking. This type of thinking gives you control of your world. Thinking positive and loving thoughts creates a beautiful world for you.
Jane was living her life and feeling something was missing. She wanted to lose weight, find a loving relationship and make more money. If you asked Linda to describe her life in ten words or less she would say, “Life is hard and I never get what I want.”
How many of you have the same response? It is often suggested to focus on the good things in your life and things will change. What a great idea and hard to do. As humans we are programmed to want more instead of appreciate what we have.
Have you ever thought when I get that new job life will be great? Then when you get that new job you start thinking, “I need to lose 10 pounds?” A lot of us are action focused and feel like failures when we are not wanting something or working towards it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more, you are making your life better. The only problem being sometimes you are never satisfied and keep thinking life will be better when reaching yet another goal. How can you achieve the feeling of satisfaction and at the same time continue working on your goals?
As Louise Hay’s says, “You are the power and authority of your world.” Below are some simple steps you can take to get started.
• Write a list of what is working in your life.
• Take one step everyday towards your goal. Example: Take a 10 minute fast pace walk before dinner.
• Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself, “I am the best I can be right now.”
I invite you to let the Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community know what other steps we can take to create a beautiful world for ourselves.
You are the power and authority of your world.
…You get to have whatever you choice to think.”Louise Hay
What a powerful way of thinking. This type of thinking gives you control of your world. Thinking positive and loving thoughts creates a beautiful world for you.
Jane was living her life and feeling something was missing. She wanted to lose weight, find a loving relationship and make more money. If you asked Linda to describe her life in ten words or less she would say, “Life is hard and I never get what I want.”
How many of you have the same response? It is often suggested to focus on the good things in your life and things will change. What a great idea and hard to do. As humans we are programmed to want more instead of appreciate what we have.
Have you ever thought when I get that new job life will be great? Then when you get that new job you start thinking, “I need to lose 10 pounds?” A lot of us are action focused and feel like failures when we are not wanting something or working towards it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more, you are making your life better. The only problem being sometimes you are never satisfied and keep thinking life will be better when reaching yet another goal. How can you achieve the feeling of satisfaction and at the same time continue working on your goals?
As Louise Hay’s says, “You are the power and authority of your world.” Below are some simple steps you can take to get started.
• Write a list of what is working in your life.
• Take one step everyday towards your goal. Example: Take a 10 minute fast pace walk before dinner.
• Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself, “I am the best I can be right now.”
I invite you to let the Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community know what other steps we can take to create a beautiful world for ourselves.
Monday, May 12, 2008
Life is Beautiful
“Life is change.
Growth is optional.
Choose wisely.”
Karen Kaiser Clark
This quote has a lot of meaning for me. Reading between the lines you can either hide in denial or take advantage of a growth opportunity. Nothing is easy!
Every day is a new day with many opportunities, changes and options. Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I had a choice to feel sorry for myself because Bob (my husband past away on January 10, 2008) was not with us or enjoy the day. I made the choice to have a beautiful day.
Spending the day with my family made it easier. At times it was sad when we reminisced about the good times we had together and also laughed at some of the funny stories. It is amazing how your attitude affects your mood and day.
Every day is a new day and what a great opportunity we have to find the beauty in this world. What new growth opportunity did you learn today?
Growth is optional.
Choose wisely.”
Karen Kaiser Clark
This quote has a lot of meaning for me. Reading between the lines you can either hide in denial or take advantage of a growth opportunity. Nothing is easy!
Every day is a new day with many opportunities, changes and options. Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I had a choice to feel sorry for myself because Bob (my husband past away on January 10, 2008) was not with us or enjoy the day. I made the choice to have a beautiful day.
Spending the day with my family made it easier. At times it was sad when we reminisced about the good times we had together and also laughed at some of the funny stories. It is amazing how your attitude affects your mood and day.
Every day is a new day and what a great opportunity we have to find the beauty in this world. What new growth opportunity did you learn today?
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Stress Diet
I received the diet below and want to share it with everyone who is struggling with food. Enjoy!
“Formulated diet designed to help women cope with the stress that builds during the day.
Breakfast
1 grapefruit
1 slice whole wheat toast
1 cup skim milk
Lunch
1 small portion lean, steamed chicken
1 cup spinach
1 cup herbal tea
1 Hershey's kiss
Afternoon Tea
The rest of the Hershey Kisses in the bag
1 tub of Hagen-Daaz ice cream with chocolate chips
Dinner
4 glasses of wine (red or white)
2 loaves garlic bread
1 family size supreme pizza
3 Snickers Bars
Late Night Snack
1 whole Sarah Lee cheesecake (eaten directly from the freezer)
Remember: Stressed spelled backward is desserts.”
I laughed when I read the diet and all of a sudden realized it was not so funny. I remember starting every morning eating half of a plain bagel and a cup of coffee and lunch having a small plain salad and coffee. Then when I walked into the house after work the floodgates would open and I could not get the food into my mouth fast enough. After eating everything in site I would hate myself and start exercising to get rid of all the food I ate. This was my life for many years.
Ten years ago my thinking switched and I started to eat healthy, use portion control and moderately exercise. What happened to change my behavior and look at food from a different prospective? It comes down to self-respect and loving ourselves.
It has often been said. “I would never want to be my own best friend.” We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. When we start treating ourselves with kindness our food perception changes and we stop wanting to continually hurt our bodies by overeating.
Following are a few daily steps you can take to change your behavior and thinking towards yourself:
1. Remind yourself you are a human being who has many gifts. Example: You always have a smile on your face and people feel comfortable around you. Reminding yourself about your special gifts helps change your thinking.
2. Take care of yourself, even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. I often heard it said. “Act as if.” Continually practicing a new behavior becomes a habit after 21 days.
3. Acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments. Example: Today I had a piece of fruit instead of cookies. Acknowledging yourself helps you to start focusing on your accomplishments instead of your disappointments. You are a special person and deserve the best your life has to offer.
This is the first step in changing your behaviors and thinking. Say hello, to the new beautiful person, who is loving and taking care of You. Please try one or all of the steps above and let me know what difference it makes with your food struggles. I love you all. Helen
“Formulated diet designed to help women cope with the stress that builds during the day.
Breakfast
1 grapefruit
1 slice whole wheat toast
1 cup skim milk
Lunch
1 small portion lean, steamed chicken
1 cup spinach
1 cup herbal tea
1 Hershey's kiss
Afternoon Tea
The rest of the Hershey Kisses in the bag
1 tub of Hagen-Daaz ice cream with chocolate chips
Dinner
4 glasses of wine (red or white)
2 loaves garlic bread
1 family size supreme pizza
3 Snickers Bars
Late Night Snack
1 whole Sarah Lee cheesecake (eaten directly from the freezer)
Remember: Stressed spelled backward is desserts.”
I laughed when I read the diet and all of a sudden realized it was not so funny. I remember starting every morning eating half of a plain bagel and a cup of coffee and lunch having a small plain salad and coffee. Then when I walked into the house after work the floodgates would open and I could not get the food into my mouth fast enough. After eating everything in site I would hate myself and start exercising to get rid of all the food I ate. This was my life for many years.
Ten years ago my thinking switched and I started to eat healthy, use portion control and moderately exercise. What happened to change my behavior and look at food from a different prospective? It comes down to self-respect and loving ourselves.
It has often been said. “I would never want to be my own best friend.” We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. When we start treating ourselves with kindness our food perception changes and we stop wanting to continually hurt our bodies by overeating.
Following are a few daily steps you can take to change your behavior and thinking towards yourself:
1. Remind yourself you are a human being who has many gifts. Example: You always have a smile on your face and people feel comfortable around you. Reminding yourself about your special gifts helps change your thinking.
2. Take care of yourself, even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. I often heard it said. “Act as if.” Continually practicing a new behavior becomes a habit after 21 days.
3. Acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments. Example: Today I had a piece of fruit instead of cookies. Acknowledging yourself helps you to start focusing on your accomplishments instead of your disappointments. You are a special person and deserve the best your life has to offer.
This is the first step in changing your behaviors and thinking. Say hello, to the new beautiful person, who is loving and taking care of You. Please try one or all of the steps above and let me know what difference it makes with your food struggles. I love you all. Helen
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
Stress Releasers
Do you feel very stressed and have any of the thoughts below?
• I have to go on another diet.
• I have to get a new job.
• I don’t have enough money.
• All I want is to spend a little time alone.
The list can go on and on. Today’s article is about what you can do to feel relaxed, peaceful and happy during the day.
Let’s take the example all you want to do is spend a little time alone. You go to work everyday, pick-up the kids, make dinner, spend quality time as a family and get ready for the next day. You have no time for YOU and no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Spending a little time by yourself sounds like a dream that will never happen.
One day I was feeling very stressed thinking about all the work I had to do and not having enough hours in a day to finish everything. Complaining to a friend she told me about an article she just read on how to relieve stress. We discussed the different techniques of meditating, thinking positively and spending time working on your hobbies. While we were talking I came up with the idea of taking a mini-vacation everyday. To take this mini-vacation all you have to do is schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day.
10 Minute Mini-Vacation Plan
1. Schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day to do whatever you enjoy doing.
Some ideas:
• Take a walk by yourself.
• Light a candle and read a fun novel.
• Sit in a chair and take a short nap.
• Work on your hobby.
• Call a friend and reminisce about the good times.
• DO WHATEVER YOU ENJOY DOING!!
2. Make sure you take that 10 minute mini-vacation because you are important and need time to recharge your batteries.
3. Thank yourself for taking the time for YOU.
4. Plan what you are going to do tomorrow.
Taking this time for yourself helps you feel relaxed, special and able to cope with the rest of your day. YOU DESERVE THIS TIME!!! Give yourself this special treat TODAY.
As always I love hearing your stories, accomplishments and lessons learned. If you are having a difficult time please let me know and together we can find some simple solutions. To contact me, leave a comment on this blog or send an email to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I look forward to hearing from you.
• I have to go on another diet.
• I have to get a new job.
• I don’t have enough money.
• All I want is to spend a little time alone.
The list can go on and on. Today’s article is about what you can do to feel relaxed, peaceful and happy during the day.
Let’s take the example all you want to do is spend a little time alone. You go to work everyday, pick-up the kids, make dinner, spend quality time as a family and get ready for the next day. You have no time for YOU and no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Spending a little time by yourself sounds like a dream that will never happen.
One day I was feeling very stressed thinking about all the work I had to do and not having enough hours in a day to finish everything. Complaining to a friend she told me about an article she just read on how to relieve stress. We discussed the different techniques of meditating, thinking positively and spending time working on your hobbies. While we were talking I came up with the idea of taking a mini-vacation everyday. To take this mini-vacation all you have to do is schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day.
10 Minute Mini-Vacation Plan
1. Schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day to do whatever you enjoy doing.
Some ideas:
• Take a walk by yourself.
• Light a candle and read a fun novel.
• Sit in a chair and take a short nap.
• Work on your hobby.
• Call a friend and reminisce about the good times.
• DO WHATEVER YOU ENJOY DOING!!
2. Make sure you take that 10 minute mini-vacation because you are important and need time to recharge your batteries.
3. Thank yourself for taking the time for YOU.
4. Plan what you are going to do tomorrow.
Taking this time for yourself helps you feel relaxed, special and able to cope with the rest of your day. YOU DESERVE THIS TIME!!! Give yourself this special treat TODAY.
As always I love hearing your stories, accomplishments and lessons learned. If you are having a difficult time please let me know and together we can find some simple solutions. To contact me, leave a comment on this blog or send an email to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I look forward to hearing from you.
Monday, May 5, 2008
Tools for Happines
I want to apologize for not posting on my blog for awhile. I missed you all. I had a hard time writing and have been asking God to help me write again. A miracle happened today and the words appeared. I am grateful to be back and look forward to reading your comments. Helen
Changing Your Thoughts
Do you sometimes feel if you start thinking, “Everything is good in my life,” bad things will start to happen? You are not alone!
In the past we have learned when things are going good something bad always happens. How do we change our thinking to give us the security in believing we can have positive thoughts and our world will not fall apart? Let’s explore this together.
When we are thinking about our past we sometimes tend to think about things that went wrong instead of the gifts we received. An example: You can focus on how many diets you were on and gained the weight back or think about the times you maintained your weight. I know this change in thinking may sound difficult.
All it takes is one little step to get started. Following are some steps you can take to change your thinking:
1. Whenever anyone asks how you are doing, you can say “Great.” By letting the Universe know you are happy it will provide less challenges so you don’t have to learn lessons.
2. Before getting out of bed, write down three things that you accomplished the day before. Knowing you have accomplished things raises your self-confidence.
3. In the mirror every morning tell yourself, “I love my life.” You will start to feel happier and look for the gifts in your world.
4. Put a smile on your face when you answer the phone or leave the house. Smiling gives us a sense of happiness and it will show in your voice and face.
5. When having a negative thought, picture a stop sign and think the same thought in a positive way. An example: Negative thought: “My life is so hard. Picture a Stop Sign. Positive thought: “Great things are happening in my life, yesterday my daughter told me, “I was a great mom.”
Now is your turn. Try one or more of the steps above and see what happens. I look forward to hearing from you. Helen
Changing Your Thoughts
Do you sometimes feel if you start thinking, “Everything is good in my life,” bad things will start to happen? You are not alone!
In the past we have learned when things are going good something bad always happens. How do we change our thinking to give us the security in believing we can have positive thoughts and our world will not fall apart? Let’s explore this together.
When we are thinking about our past we sometimes tend to think about things that went wrong instead of the gifts we received. An example: You can focus on how many diets you were on and gained the weight back or think about the times you maintained your weight. I know this change in thinking may sound difficult.
All it takes is one little step to get started. Following are some steps you can take to change your thinking:
1. Whenever anyone asks how you are doing, you can say “Great.” By letting the Universe know you are happy it will provide less challenges so you don’t have to learn lessons.
2. Before getting out of bed, write down three things that you accomplished the day before. Knowing you have accomplished things raises your self-confidence.
3. In the mirror every morning tell yourself, “I love my life.” You will start to feel happier and look for the gifts in your world.
4. Put a smile on your face when you answer the phone or leave the house. Smiling gives us a sense of happiness and it will show in your voice and face.
5. When having a negative thought, picture a stop sign and think the same thought in a positive way. An example: Negative thought: “My life is so hard. Picture a Stop Sign. Positive thought: “Great things are happening in my life, yesterday my daughter told me, “I was a great mom.”
Now is your turn. Try one or more of the steps above and see what happens. I look forward to hearing from you. Helen
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