Thursday, May 31, 2007

DIETER'S JOURNEY

Today is a new day on your journey of life. We have a choice either feeling sorry for ourselves for not losing weight or trying a new eating behavior. Our thoughts of losing weight can be like an old friend. The thought is always with us and never challenges us to try something different. Until you are ready to make a commitment that things will be different and have the courage to move in a new direction nothing changes.

The following quote from the book, “Time for Joy”, By Ruth Fishel and Bonny Van de Kamp, illustrates how walking through your fears enables you to live a vibrant life.

It takes great courage to go in new directions.
It takes great courage to try things that others around us have not tried.
One can have courage while one has fear.
Courage does not mean the absence of fear.
To open new doors, to take new steps while walking through our fear
takes the greatest courage of all.
Each new door opened gives us confidence to open the next door.
By trusting the goodness within us and going beyond the fear,
Life is an exciting, satisfying and fulfilling place to be.

As your coach I support you in taking small steps that will make you very strong while making changes in your life. I have found that working with my clients in identifying what is more important in their life than food and reconnecting with what really makes them happy enables them to lose weight and live a vibrant life.

I have a client, lets call her Terri, who originally hired me as a coach so she could lose weight. Instead of only focusing on the food we started exploring what really made her happy and fulfilled. During the coaching sessions, we created the following game she could play:

1. Explored different tools and techniques she felt comfortable implementing while changing her eating behavior.
2. Asked friends and family members what they thought her perfect job would be.
2. Explored the list of professions and narrowed them down to two or three.
3. Performed informational interviews with people in the different fields.
4. Decided she would like to pursue the field of travel.
5. Worked for a Travel Agent on Saturdays as a tour guide in the historic area of her town.

As Terri was pursuing her dream job she stopped focusing on the food, started eating healthy with quantity control, exercising and losing weight at the same time. Today Terri, is at goal weight, founder of a business that plans tours for different groups.

If your deepest desire is to get off the diet merry-go-round and into a vibrant life, I am here to support you. How vibrant do you want your life to be? I can be reached at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

SOLUTIONS FOR ENJOYING THE SUMMER

SOLUTIONS FOR ENJOYING THE SUMMER

Are you thinking, “Summer is officially here and I will not put on a bathing suit and go to the beach this year.” Welcome to the human race! Most of us with weight issues have this thought and blame ourselves for not losing the weight over the winter so we could wear a bathing suit this summer.

Having this thought is living in the problem instead of the solution. You might be thinking there is NO solution to this problem. Let’s spend some time brainstorming ways of enjoying this summer and the beach.

1. Buy a bathing suit that feels comfortable and a pretty cover-up to go over the bathing suit.

2. Start today taking a small step to change your eating behavior. What small step can you take? An example: just for today light a candle and have a cup of tea or coffee instead of grabbing something from the refrigerator. Tomorrow repeat the same lovely experience.

3. Go to the beach early in the morning when it is less crowded. Early in the morning, I love having a cup of coffee and reading the newspaper on the beach.

4. Take a walk on the beach at sundown.

5. Sit in your backyard sun bathing using a heavy sun blocker.

6. Take a long walk early in the morning; this is my favorite time of day.

7. Schedule time with a good friend to have lunch in an outside café.

8. Invite family and friends over for a picnic and invite everyone to bring a healthy dish. An example: Salad, vegetable sticks with flavored yogurt for dipping, grilled skinless chicken, baked potatoes, fruit and other low calorie dishes. Please let me know what dishes you served at the picnic.

9. Take your children or grandchildren, or nieces or nephews to a water park.

10. Set-up a birdbath and watch the birds and squirrels take a bath.

I would love to hear your ideas for living in the solution for enjoying this summer and spending time on the beach.

Friday, May 25, 2007

Wish I Could Lose 10 lbs TODAY!

It’s Memorial Day Weekend, are you invited to a picnic and wishing you could lose 10 lbs today. I have been there and remember making a thousand excuses of why I should not go to the picnic. One of my techniques was to aggravate my husband so we had an argument and then not go to the party. Why not look forward to the picnic and seeing all your friends? As they say live in the solution not the problem.

Some tips for living in the solution instead of the problem:

1. Bring a special dish to the picnic that you can eat and will not be filled with thousands of calories. I usually bring a fruit platter. Call the host before to see if you can bring your specialty.

2. Wear an outfit that you feel comfortable in. Sometimes I even treat myself to something new.

3. Connect with some of the guests before the party.

4. Create a fun game everyone can play. Check with the host first before bringing the game. One year a couple of us decided to have everyone at the party create a grateful list. What we did was bring colorful sheets of paper, pens and requested everyone write a grateful list. Two hours into the party we invited some of the guests to share what they wrote. We had a great time and the game brought smiles to people’s faces.

5. Read the following poem before leaving for the picnic:

Be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars.
In the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
Max Ehrmann

Have a great time at the picnic! If you are not attending any parties, What are you going to do nice for yourself?

I would love to hear from you!!

Wednesday, May 23, 2007

Getting off the Diet Merry-Go-Round

Today is a big moment in my business. I will be joining another coach in a tele-conference to speak about “How Coaches Can Make a Difference.” There are over 100 coaches signed up for the call. I am excited and a bit nervous so my thoughts turn to food; my old companion.

I once heard it said that being in recovery from my food addiction is not a graduate program. It is one step at a time. On the other hand, it gives me comfort following a food plan. There are so many unknowns and by eating healthy and exercising I know that my life will be vibrant and healthy.

Susan writes:
Dear Helen:

My life is great expect for one area, I can’t stop eating cakes, ice cream and anything I can get my hands on. Everyday I wake up and make a commitment that today will be different. Within a few hours I am back to eating large quantities of food with sugar. Do you have any suggestions?

I really need your help! Susan P.

My response:
Dear Susan:

First of all I want to congratulate you for reaching out to me. I have found that we cannot change our behavior alone. Many miracles happen by taking small steps and then before we know it our goal is reached.

By taking the following small steps will change your behavior and miracles will start to happen:

• Be kind to yourself.
• Write a grateful list everyday listing all your accomplishments.
• Take a 10 minute mini-vacation, doing something nice for yourself.
• Start slowly by eating more fruits and vegetables during your meals.
• Gradually eliminate processed sugar from your diet.
• Get support from professionals.

Please leave your questions on my blog. I will offer tools and techniques that will help you on your journey of getting off the diet merry-go-round and into a vibrant life.

If you are interested in a Complimentary Coaching Consultation please email me at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. Remember you are the only one who can make a difference in your life by taking that first step and reaching out for support.

Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Dieter's Thoughts About Going To A Party

Does this situation sound familiar? You are invited to a party and will be seeing many friends you have not seen in over a year. The first thought that comes to your mind, “I wish I was 10 lbs lighter and what am I going to wear that will make me look good?”

These thoughts are very common among people who are struggling with food. Does this sound true, the last diet only worked for the first couple of weeks and then either you did not continue to lose weight or started to eat again? I hate to say this is a natural occurrence in our lives.

Let’s look at this situation in another way. Be kind to yourself! Go to your closet and pick out the outfit you feel comfortable wearing and put on a pretty necklace or earnings. When the thought comes up, “I don’t want to go” – STOP – and take a deep breath and thank your thought. Then immediately think about a friend you have not seen in awhile who will be at the party. By stopping the negative thought and thinking about something else changes your attitude. Another tool I use is to put a smile on my face and tell my cat “I look beautiful.”

I have been working with a client who has been on a new journey of eating healthy, exercising and losing weight. She was going to a Woman’s Networking Event and telling me if only she lost another 20lbs she would want to go to the event. We started to discuss the situation and she realized going to gatherings made her feeling uncomfortable. Then we discussed new tools she could use in changing her attitude. Some of the tools are as follows:

• Acknowledge her thought.
• Choice an outfit which made her feel comfortable.
• Think about her friends that were attending the event.
• Determine which marketing materials she would bring.
• Practice on her introduction speech.
• Before leaving for the event, read the following affirmation, put it on a piece of paper in her pocket and everytime a scary thought appears touch the affirmation:
“I am fabulous just the way I am and am having a great time.”

In a matter of minutes her attitude changed and she was looking forward to going. I got an email from her the other day saying, “Had a great time and only touched the affirmation 3 times.”

Is this the time in your life when you are tired of struggling with food and want to get into a vibrant life? As your coach I help you identify and connect with what in your life is more important than food. Support you in reconnecting with your forgotten dream or discovering what will truly make you happy and give you joy.

Please send me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net and we can explore together ways of getting off the diet merry-go-round and into a vibrant life. How vibrant do you want your life to be?

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

BEAUTIFUL DAY

This morning as I watch my friends the birds and squirrels, I realized how lucky I am to have such a beautiful view from my office window. The sun is shinning and the leaves and backs of the squirrels are shimmering from the sun light.

Thinking about the beauty surrounding me, I started to think of all the miracles in my life. Some of the miracles I have in my life are as follows:
• Today I am in recovery from my food addiction.
• Great friends who support me.
• Alfie, my cat, is sitting next to me as I work on the computer.
• Exercised this morning.
• Beautiful day planned with many unsuspected golden moments.

As I read my miracles, I realized that being in recovery from my food addiction enables me to live a vibrant life. Thinking back over eight years ago, weighing close to 200 lbs. the only thing on my mind was how am I going to lose the weight. If I was thin everything would be different and I could start enjoying my life.

One day I made a decision that I was going to stop taking diet supplements, reading all diet books and get the support I needed. I found a nutritionist, therapist that specialized in addictions and went to an OA meeting. These first steps on my new journey supported me in designing and living a new healthy lifestyle free from food obsession. Eight years later I am still on the same journey and weighing 70 lbs. less. Some of the small steps I take are as follows:
• Eating Healthy using quantity control.
• Exercising
• Receiving and giving support to my friends
• Working with a coach so that I continue living a vibrant life.

If your deepest desire is to get off the diet merry-go-round and into a vibrant life, I am here to support you. How vibrant do you want your life to be?

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Special Moments

Relax and have fun over the next couple of weeks. Remember, you’re making memories at every moment. Make sure that yours are worth remembering.’
Cheryl Richardson

I was looking for a quote for my Life’s Little Journey Ezine and came across Cheryl Richardson’s quote above. How easy to forget that we are constantly making memories that inspired us and made our lives more enjoyable.

Sometimes I receive a wake-up call to STOP and smell the flowers. The last few weeks I have been working long hours and not taking time to appreciate the special moments in my life. Last night after making final revisions on the Ezine my phone rang and it was my sister. She was telling me about the special moments she shared with her two year old grandson. We had a great time laughing and telling each other how great it was being a grandmother.

When I got off the phone I realized that I was not taking time to enjoy my life; I was always working. This morning one of my intentions was to enjoy the special moments in my day. Following are the special moments that happened to me this morning:

• As I am writing this blog, Alfie my black cat, is sitting next to the computer watching me with such love in his eyes.

• While talking to a Coach this morning, we both realized that we had so much in common and now I have a new friend.

What special moments are occurring in your life right now?

Tuesday, May 8, 2007

NEW DAY

A few weeks ago, I was thinking about my life. Some days I woke up and thought about how am I going to get thru the day. Other days I woke up and was excited about my day. What makes each day different?

After thinking about this phenomenon, I realized that my fears are controlling my thoughts. If I feel overwhelmed with all I have to do, my fears come out in full force to help me. On the other hand, if I am feeling confident about myself and my fears are on vacation, I am excited about experiencing the new day.

WOW!! That was easy.

Last week, I was working with a client who was concerned because some days she was excited about her life and others were a struggle. Sounds familiar? We discussed what was happening and brainstormed different ideas. She came up with the conclusion that when she accomplished a small step towards her goal she felt confident. Going to bed feeling confident enabled her to wake up the next morning excited about her life.

Even though her day took on a life of its own, she was determined to accomplish one small step towards reaching her goal each day. The small step she planned on taking was to eat one healthy meal a day. A week past and I was working with this client again today. She was so excited about how her life had shifted and now every morning she woke up with a smile on her face and looked forward to her day. She told me the only difference was that she ate a healthy breakfast each day and acknowledged herself when she got into bed at night. Now she has planned to eat yogurt and cereal instead of ice cream before going to bed. Stay tuned and I will let you know how she is progressing.

Special Opportunities

If you like, chose one of the activities below and see how your life shifts. The only request I have is to continue the same small step for 21 days and let me know what happens.

When you get up in the morning give yourself a big hug and say, “I love you and I am going to have a great day.”

Each day plan on taking one little step towards reaching your goal. Make sure you can accomplish this small step within 15 minutes. Then before going to bed acknowledge yourself for accomplishing your goal.

Before getting out of bed, thank God for the day before and ask him/her to grant you a beautiful day.

I am looking forward to hearing from you.

Saturday, May 5, 2007

Tips from Oscar, the Black Squirrel

As I sit in my office, watching the birds and black squirrel eat from the birdfeeders; it reminds me of how I use to eat compulsively. It is amazing how after eight years of eating healthy and using quantity control it still bothers me watching others eat. I can never forget the fact my disease is doing push-ups in a corner and waiting for the right moment to act out with a vengeance.

I was thinking about this situation and realized I could continue being obsessed with the fact that watching the birds made me feel uncomfortable or look at the situation in a different way. I could watch the birds and appreciate their beautiful colors and acknowledge how lucky I am to have so many different types of birds in my backyard.

As far as the squirrel, named Oscar, watching him gave me motivation and confidence to pursue my dreams. Oscar is very persistent and never gives up until he manages to eat from every birdfeeder until they are empty. He appears early in the morning and gorges himself until he is full. Then he runs around, chasing the birds and disappears until evening. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed with life I think of Oscar, how nothing stops him from finding food and always plays after he eats. I have been working hard this week inputting information into a database and at the end of the day felt exhausted. I got into bed one night and thought there had to be an easier way. I started thinking about Oscar and how persistent he was and always took time to have fun. Made a decision, I would be like Oscar, to continue pursing my dream and also take a mini-vacation every day at 3:00pm.

A mini-vacation is taking at least 10 minutes for myself to do whatever made me happy. By taking the time for myself eliminates stress and is a great motivator. Everyday at 3:00pm for at least 10 minutes I either took a walk, read a book or called a friend. It is amazing how much better I felt and had renewed energy.

What mini-vacation for at least 10 minutes would you like to take everyday? Please let me know.